Attract Real Love
Esi Zar
This audiobook is narrated by a digital voice.
Let’s be honest.
You’re tired.
Tired of almosts. Tired of “What are we?” conversations. Tired of swiping, overthinking texts, trying not to care too much—but still caring.
You’ve played it cool, played it smart, played it safe.
And still, you’re alone. Or worse, stuck in something that feels like love—but leaves you empty.
If you’re here, you’re probably not looking for another trick, tactic, or surface-level dating advice.
You want something real.
Someone real.
A connection that doesn’t disappear the moment things get hard—or the moment you show your true self.
Maybe you’ve started to wonder if it’s you.
Maybe you’ve lowered your standards. Or maybe you’ve raised your walls.
You’ve done the work, or tried to.
You’ve read the posts, listened to the podcasts, watched your friends pair off—wondering when, or if, it will ever happen for you.
Here’s what I want you to hear, right now, at the very start:
There is nothing wrong with you.
But something has been off in the way we’ve been taught to find love.
We’ve been handed a messy, confusing rulebook—full of mixed signals, outdated ideas, and emotional shortcuts that don’t work.
This book? It throws that rulebook out.
Attract Real Love isn’t about changing who you are—it’s about uncovering the part of you that’s already ready for lasting connection.
Duration - 1h 52m.
Author - Esi Zar.
Narrator - Digital Voice Marcus G.
Published Date - Thursday, 02 January 2025.
Location:
United States
Description:
This audiobook is narrated by a digital voice. Let’s be honest. You’re tired. Tired of almosts. Tired of “What are we?” conversations. Tired of swiping, overthinking texts, trying not to care too much—but still caring. You’ve played it cool, played it smart, played it safe. And still, you’re alone. Or worse, stuck in something that feels like love—but leaves you empty. If you’re here, you’re probably not looking for another trick, tactic, or surface-level dating advice. You want something real. Someone real. A connection that doesn’t disappear the moment things get hard—or the moment you show your true self. Maybe you’ve started to wonder if it’s you. Maybe you’ve lowered your standards. Or maybe you’ve raised your walls. You’ve done the work, or tried to. You’ve read the posts, listened to the podcasts, watched your friends pair off—wondering when, or if, it will ever happen for you. Here’s what I want you to hear, right now, at the very start: There is nothing wrong with you. But something has been off in the way we’ve been taught to find love. We’ve been handed a messy, confusing rulebook—full of mixed signals, outdated ideas, and emotional shortcuts that don’t work. This book? It throws that rulebook out. Attract Real Love isn’t about changing who you are—it’s about uncovering the part of you that’s already ready for lasting connection. Duration - 1h 52m. Author - Esi Zar. Narrator - Digital Voice Marcus G. Published Date - Thursday, 02 January 2025.
Language:
English
Attract Real Love
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A No-Games Guide to Finding a Genuine Connection That Lasts
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Introduction: Why You're Still Searching—and Why That Ends Now
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Chapter 1: The Love Lies We’ve Been Sold
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The Problem Isn’t You — It’s the Programming
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The Myth of “The One” and the Chemistry Trap
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Two Stories, One Truth
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Here’s the Truth They Needed (And Maybe You Do Too):
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How to Begin Letting Go of the Lies
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A Tool to Try: Rewrite Your Inner Love Story
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Journal Prompt:
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Remember This:
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Chapter 2: Are You Available for Love—or Just Looking for Attention?
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Wanting Love Isn’t the Same as Being Ready for It
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The Mirror Most People Avoid
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Picture This
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Real-Life Glimpse: Tasha’s Shift
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A Truth to Sit With
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Tool: The Love Readiness Self-Check
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Journaling Prompt:
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Here’s the Empowering Truth:
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Chapter 3: Healing the Hidden Wounds Blocking Real Connection
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The Old Hurt That Keeps Whispering
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Real-Life Glimpse: Daniel’s Discovery
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Why Awareness Isn’t Enough
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A Metaphor to Remember: The Unpatched Roof
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Healing Isn’t Linear — But It’s Worth It
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How to Begin the Healing Process
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1. Notice Your Triggers Without Shame
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2. Give Your Inner Child a Seat at the Table
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3. Choose One New Way to Respond
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Here’s What I Want You to Know:
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Chapter 4: The Self-Worth Shift — From Needing Love to Attracting It
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The Invisible Chase
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From Fragile Worth to Rooted Worth
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Real-Life Glimpse: Melissa’s Shift
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How to Build Magnetic Self-Worth
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1. Stop Trying to Be “Low Maintenance”
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2. Say “No” So You Can Say a Bigger “Yes” Later
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3. Treat Yourself How You Want to Be Treated
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Ask Yourself This:
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Here’s What You Deserve to Hear:
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Chapter 5: Defining What Real Love Actually Looks Like (Spoiler: It’s Not a Fairytale)
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The Fairytale vs. Real Life Disconnect
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Real-Life Glimpse: Camila’s Awakening
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The Fantasy That Keeps You Stuck
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What Real Love Actually Looks Like
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Practical Tool: Rewrite Your Love Definition
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Here’s What You Deserve to Know:
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Chapter 6: Stop Settling, Start Selecting — How to Recognize Red and Green Flags
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Red Flags Aren’t Always Obvious — Until You Know What to Look For
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Real-Life Glimpse: James’ Pattern
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Red Flags to Stop Ignoring
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Green Flags: What Safe, Real Love Feels Like
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Here’s what to watch for:
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Tool: The “Feel-Check” Framework
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Here’s What I Want You to Remember:
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Chapter 7: The No-Games Dating Blueprint — How to Connect Without Losing Yourself
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Why Most People Date in Survival Mode
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Real-Life Glimpse: Sam’s Shift
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The Dating Blueprint That Actually Works
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🔹 Step 1: Start With Clarity, Not Strategy
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🔹 Step 2: Communicate Honestly and Early
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🔹 Step 3: Pace the Connection with Presence, Not Pressure
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The Nervous System Knows
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Tool: The 3-Question Alignment Check
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Here’s the Shift That Changes Everything:
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Chapter 8: Chemistry vs. Compatibility — And Why One Will Save You Years
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The Confusion That Costs Us
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Real-Life Glimpse: A Tale of Two Connections
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Why We Crave the Spark
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What Compatibility Actually Feels Like
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The Compatibility Compass: A Simple Tool
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Metaphor: Dating Like House Hunting
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Chapter 9: Communication That Builds Intimacy (Not Confusion)
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When “Talking” Doesn’t Mean Connecting
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Real-Life Glimpse: Erin & Marcus
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The Real Purpose of Communication in Love
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The Big Shift: Communicate to Reveal, Not to Control
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Metaphor: The Foggy Window
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Practical Tool: The “REAL” Framework for Intimate Conversation
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R – Reflect before reacting
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E – Express, don’t explode
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A – Ask with curiosity
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L – Listen to understand, not to reply
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What Intimate Communication Actually Sounds Like
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Chapter 10: Why “The One” Is a Myth — and What to Look for Instead
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The Fantasy That Hurts More Than It Heals
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Real-Life Glimpse: Olivia’s Realization
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The Truth: There’s No One. There Are Many “Could Be’s.”
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Metaphor: The Soulmate Puzzle
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How to Shift from Fantasy to Fulfillment
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1. Let Go of the Myth
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2. Stop Chasing the Feeling. Start Observing the Patterns.
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3. Look for Compatibility in the Everyday
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Chapter 11: From Situationships to Sacred Partnerships — Turning Uncertainty into Real Commitment
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The Emotional Cost of “Almost”
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Real-Life Glimpse: Tori’s Crossroads
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Why We Stay Stuck in Half-Relationships
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From Situationship to Sacred Partnership
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The Sacred Partnership Checklist
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Practical Tool: “The Clarity Conversation”
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Metaphor: The Half-Built Bridge
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Chapter 12: The Vulnerability Advantage — Letting Love In Without Losing Yourself
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The Lie That Keeps Us Guarded
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Real-Life Glimpse: Jay’s Turning Point
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What Vulnerability Really Is (and Isn’t)
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Metaphor: The Open Window
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Practical Tool: The “Brave Truth” Practice
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The Hidden Benefit: Vulnerability Filters the Wrong People
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Chapter 13: Real Love in the Real World — Handling Conflict, Boredom, and Change
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Why the “Fizzle Phase” Isn’t a Sign of Failure
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Real-Life Glimpse: Alana & Jordan’s Fork in the Road
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Love Isn’t a Feeling. It’s a Practice.
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3 Things That Don’t Mean the Relationship Is Over
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1. You feel bored sometimes.
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2. You argue.
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3. You feel attracted to someone else.
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Tool: “The Check-In Ritual” for Real-Life Love
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Metaphor: The Garden of Love
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Chapter 14: Growing Together, Not Apart — How to Evolve Without Losing the Relationship
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Love Isn’t Meant to Stay the Same
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Real-Life Glimpse: Dani & Luis
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The Myth of “Growing Apart”
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Metaphor: The Two Trees
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Practical Ways to Grow Together
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1. Share Your Growth Out Loud
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2. Create a “Check-In & Grow” Ritual
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3. Support — Don’t Pressure
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When Growth Doesn’t Match — What Then?
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Chapter 15: Becoming the Partner You Want to Attract
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The Shift from Seeking to Becoming
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Real-Life Glimpse: Amira’s Breakthrough
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You Don’t Attract What You Want — You Attract What You Embody
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Metaphor: Becoming the Lighthouse
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Practical Tool: Your “Love Identity” Reflection
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Closing Chapter: You Are the Home You’ve Been Searching For
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The Road Behind You. The Path Ahead.
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One Final Image
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How to Keep Moving Forward Without Me
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A Final Blessing, from Me to You
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🧭 Quick Reset: A 10-Minute Summary of Everything That Matters
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Where You Began
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What You Know Now
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Love begins within
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Not all chemistry is connection
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Clarity over confusion
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Boundaries are love in action
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You attract what you embody
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You’re not afraid of discomfort anymore
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Growth doesn’t mean outgrowing love
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When You Feel Yourself Slipping Back
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What You Deserve to Remember
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The Truth You Can Come Back To Anytime
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