Talking It Better
Matthew Elton
Talking it Better is a practical book about the everyday practice of counselling and psychotherapy, written by a practitioner for fellow practitioners. Using case studies based on his own clients, Elton carefully examines what helps and what hinders the process of change in the therapy room. At the heart of therapeutic work, he argues, is the development of effective mind skills. He explains how counsellors and therapists can borrow valuable ideas from the teachers of skills such as swimming, reading music or learning to drive. And he shows us that, when it comes to developing our mind skills, practice is often far more important than insight or theory. Marie-Anne wants to manage the sergeant major in her head who keeps telling her what to do. Calum wants to learn to hear what his partner is really saying, rather than what he fears she is. Isobel wants to stop rushing to help people and then resenting them because they take her for granted. These, and the many other characters in this book, were profoundly stuck until, through talking it better , each found a unique path taking them closer to the self they would prefer to be.
'This is a beautifully written, accessible and inspiring book, that has a lot to offer to both novice and experienced counsellors and psychotherapists, and also to clients. Matthew Elton invites other practitioners to look over his shoulder to find out how another colleague works. Elton’s approach is highly collaborative.... I enjoyed reading this book, learned from it, and would recommend it to anyone – practitioner or help-seeker – who is interested in understanding how therapy can make a difference.
Julia McLeod, Lecturer in Counselling and Psychotherapy, Abertay University
Duration - 8h 45m.
Author - Matthew Elton.
Narrator - James Bryce.
Published Date - Sunday, 22 January 2023.
Copyright - © 2021 Matthew Elton ©.
Location:
United States
Description:
Talking it Better is a practical book about the everyday practice of counselling and psychotherapy, written by a practitioner for fellow practitioners. Using case studies based on his own clients, Elton carefully examines what helps and what hinders the process of change in the therapy room. At the heart of therapeutic work, he argues, is the development of effective mind skills. He explains how counsellors and therapists can borrow valuable ideas from the teachers of skills such as swimming, reading music or learning to drive. And he shows us that, when it comes to developing our mind skills, practice is often far more important than insight or theory. Marie-Anne wants to manage the sergeant major in her head who keeps telling her what to do. Calum wants to learn to hear what his partner is really saying, rather than what he fears she is. Isobel wants to stop rushing to help people and then resenting them because they take her for granted. These, and the many other characters in this book, were profoundly stuck until, through talking it better , each found a unique path taking them closer to the self they would prefer to be. 'This is a beautifully written, accessible and inspiring book, that has a lot to offer to both novice and experienced counsellors and psychotherapists, and also to clients. Matthew Elton invites other practitioners to look over his shoulder to find out how another colleague works. Elton’s approach is highly collaborative.... I enjoyed reading this book, learned from it, and would recommend it to anyone – practitioner or help-seeker – who is interested in understanding how therapy can make a difference. Julia McLeod, Lecturer in Counselling and Psychotherapy, Abertay University Duration - 8h 45m. Author - Matthew Elton. Narrator - James Bryce. Published Date - Sunday, 22 January 2023. Copyright - © 2021 Matthew Elton ©.
Language:
English
Opening Credits
Duration:00:00:13
01 introduction
Duration:00:15:51
02 part 1 starting to talk
Duration:00:02:08
03 chapter 1 marie anne and her sergeant major
Duration:00:25:01
04 chapter 2 calum gets prickly
Duration:00:22:58
05 chapter 3 isobel is a helpful person
Duration:00:08:56
06 chapter 4 meeting the help seeker
Duration:00:29:03
07 chapter 5 responding to the practitioner
Duration:00:21:26
08 part 2 pausing to reflect
Duration:00:02:30
09 chapter 6 issues with insight
Duration:00:30:29
10 chapter 7 plausible pessimism
Duration:00:24:57
11 chapter 8 transforming perception
Duration:00:17:08
12 chapter 9 fear of doing things differently
Duration:00:21:08
13 chapter 10 learning in relationship
Duration:00:19:07
14 part 3 talking it better
Duration:00:01:42
15 chapter 11 rhona can’t quite begin
Duration:00:13:05
16 chapter 12 morven struggles with confidence
Duration:00:34:07
17 chapter 13 calum breaks out of old patterns
Duration:00:28:41
18 chapter 14 isobel’s ping
Duration:00:26:47
19 chapter 15 martyn and his hope protector
Duration:00:30:08
20 chapter 16 jana and lucy find each other impossible
Duration:00:27:59
21 chapter 17 isla is held back by shame
Duration:00:35:20
22 part 4 enough talk
Duration:00:02:30
23 chapter 18 how much is enough
Duration:00:04:36
24 chapter 19 enough to get by
Duration:00:26:10
25 chapter 20 finishing models
Duration:00:36:30
26 chapter 21 enough already
Duration:00:11:29
27 postscript marie anne
Duration:00:05:03
Ending Credits
Duration:00:00:23