UnF*ck Your Brain: Feminist Self-Help for Everyone

Are you stuck in thought patterns, habits, or emotional cycles you can’t break, even though you know they’re not serving you? I promise that it’s possible to pursue your goals without your brain putting you in fight or flight as soon as you start taking serious steps. And that's what I'm teaching you how to do in my new, free training coming up: Safety Is An Inside Job. It's happening on May 14th @ 12 PM ET, and you can click here to grab your spot: https://the-school-of-new-feminist-thought.captivate.fm/safety-training

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After coaching thousands of women (and learning a lot from my own journey), I’ve realized that our brains are really good at focusing on what we haven’t yet accomplished, while completely glossing over what we have. That’s why it’s crucial to actively look for evidence of growth and progress. In this episode, I’m sharing the three biggest insights I gained during my 43rd year: how to handle differences of opinion in relationships without being triggered, how to make decisions even when you don’t have all the answers, and why no single achievement will change your life overnight. Tune in to hear how embracing the highs and lows of life can teach us everything we need to know about self-trust, decision-making, and staying grounded in uncertainty. For full show notes, transcript, and more information, go to: https://schoolofnewfeministthought.com/391 Mentioned in this episode: 🎉 My Birthday Flash Sale Is Coming — Get On the List! Every year on my birthday, I give YOU a present — a flash sale on your first month inside The Feminist Self-Help Society, my flagship coaching membership. The sale only runs April 24–26, so this is your official heads up. If you want in, make sure you’re on the list. 👉 Go to schoolofnewfeministthought.com/list-podcast or text your email to +1 (347) 997-1784 with the code word LIST and I’ll send you a reminder when the doors open. Don’t miss it — I only do this once a year! Bday Sale Waitlist

Once a year, on my birthday, I give you the gift — a flash sale on your first month inside The Feminist Self-Help Society, my flagship coaching membership. The sale runs April 24–26. Get on the reminder list now at schoolofnewfeministthought.com/list-podcast or text your email to +1 (347) 997-1784 with the code word LIST so you don’t miss it.

Is your brain stuck replaying the same unhelpful thoughts on a loop? You’re not broken—your brain is just doing what it’s been trained to do: cling to old stories, even when they’re holding you back. In this episode, I’m sharing one of my favorite coaching tools that can break that loop instantly. It’s simple, powerful, and might just change how you see everything—from your relationships to your goals to how you think about yourself. Find the full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://schoolofnewfeministthought.com/390

What does it really mean to be extraordinary—and why does it feel so uncomfortable to even ask that question? In this week’s episode, I’m unpacking the way society trains women and marginalized people to fear their own greatness. We’re taught that wanting more—more impact, more growth, more self-expression—is selfish or arrogant. And in times like these, when the world feels like it’s sliding backward, that message gets even louder: stay quiet, don’t make waves, be content with “good enough.” But now is exactly when we need to lean into our power. Tune in to learn why being extraordinary has nothing to do with fame or visibility—and everything to do with how deeply you commit to your values, your purpose, and your own full expression. Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://schoolofnewfeministthought.com/389 Mentioned in this episode: Join us for Your Future Feminist Self! 800+ women have taken this workshop and changed their lives. Now it’s back, for the only time in 2025. Click here to grab your spot: https://the-school-of-new-feminist-thought.captivate.fm/future-feminist-self-podcast FFS April 2025

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Does the future feel totally impossible to plan for right now? As someone who loves planning and going after my goals, I’ve found it really hard to wrap my brain around long-term thinking when everything—politics, the economy, even basic social norms—feels like it’s shifting under our feet. So in this episode, I’m sharing how I’m navigating this moment—and offering a mindset shift that can help you move forward with clarity, even when the future looks like a big ol’ question mark. Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://schoolofnewfeministthought.com/388 Mentioned in this episode: FFS April 2025 Join us for Your Future Feminist Self! 800+ women have taken this workshop and changed their lives. Now it’s back, for the only time in 2025. Click here to grab your spot: https://the-school-of-new-feminist-thought.captivate.fm/future-feminist-self-podcast FFS April 2025

Today, I'm revisiting one of the most essential tools in thought work: the thought ladder. If you’ve ever tried to change your results by slapping on a shiny new thought that doesn’t quite feel believable, you already know it doesn’t work that way. In this episode, I’m breaking down why belief—not just thought—is what really drives change, and how to climb the ladder in a way your brain can actually follow. This work takes patience and persistence, but the payoff is huge. Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://schoolofnewfeministthought.com/387

Ever felt the urge to shake things up with a bold, unexpected move? Women are taught that midlife is when we’re supposed to fade into the background, but what if it’s actually the perfect time to dream bigger, take more risks, and redefine what’s possible for ourselves? This week, Master Certified Life Coach Susan Hyatt is back to talk about making courageous changes—at any age. She’s sharing her own wild decision to sail around the world (with six pets, no less!) and calling out the limiting beliefs that keep women from going after their biggest dreams. Whether you're looking to switch careers, take up a new hobby, or embark on an adventure, this episode is your sign to go for it! Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://schoolofnewfeministthought.com/386

Are you struggling to focus with everything happening in the world right now? You’re not alone. When life feels chaotic and uncertain, it’s natural for your brain to spiral. But staying stuck in that disoriented, doom-scrolling state isn’t actually helping you feel safer—it’s just keeping you trapped in stress and anxiety. In this episode, I break down why your brain wants to keep obsessively checking the news and why that strategy never really helps. Plus, I’ll share one powerful mindset shift that can help you navigate this unsettling time. Tune in to learn how to make this shift and find a little more peace—no matter what’s happening around you. Get full show notes and more information here: https://schoolofnewfeministthought.com/385

Do you constantly feel like you need to control everything in your life? Like if you could just be more organized, more productive, more perfect, then you’d finally feel at peace? What if the real secret to feeling more fulfilled was actually letting go of that control? This week, I’m joined by Oliver Burkeman, author of 4,000 Weeks, to talk about why embracing our limits—not fighting them—is the key to a more meaningful life. Oliver and I dive into our culture’s obsession with productivity and perfection, why it actually makes us more anxious, and how to stop chasing an impossible standard and start spending your precious time in a way that actually matters. If you’re ready to stop feeling like life is a never-ending to-do list, this episode is for you. Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://schoolofnewfeministthought.com/384

Lately it has felt like the world is on fire—war, climate crises, political chaos… it’s a lot for our brains to handle. And yet, instead of stepping back, we find ourselves doom-scrolling, consuming bad news like it’s our job, and wondering why we feel so anxious and exhausted. Is obsessively staying informed actually helping you—or just keeping you stuck? In this Greatest Hits episode, I break down how to rewire your brain’s alarm system, recognize when “being informed” is just people-pleasing in disguise, and refocus on your actual sphere of influence—so you can take meaningful action without burning yourself out. Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://schoolofnewfeministthought.com/383

Are you feeling overwhelmed or even paralyzed by everything happening in the world right now? Do you catch yourself looking to others for answers—waiting for someone to tell you what to do or how to respond? Women are taught from birth that we’re too emotional, too irrational, too incapable of figuring things out on our own—especially when things get tough. But that conditioning is total BS, and it’s costing us our agency, autonomy, and ability to take action. In this short but powerful episode, I’m breaking down why it’s crucial to trust yourself, how to develop self-efficacy even when you’re feeling overwhelmed, and why waiting for permission or direction is the biggest thing holding you back. Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://schoolofnewfeministthought.com/382

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Do you ever feel like your relationship status defines your worth? Like your life is on hold until you find a partner? What if you could stop waiting and start being your own best partner—whether you're single, coupled up, or somewhere in between? This week, I’m joined by Meghan Keane, founder of NPR’s Life Kit and author of Party of One: Be Your Own Best Partner, to break down the shame and stigma around singleness and how it holds so many women back from fully living their lives. We talk about how to identify your values, manage your thoughts and emotions, and create meaningful, nourishing connections—with yourself and others. Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://schoolofnewfeministthought.com/381

Do you ever feel a stab of envy or anxiety when someone else gets something you want? Maybe you want to be happy for them, but deep down, their success makes you feel like you’re falling behind. If so, you’re not alone—this is what happens when we’ve been trained to believe there’s only room for one of us at the top. In this episode, I’m digging into the historical and societal roots of this mindset and sharing thought-hacks to help you break free. You’ll learn how to loosen perfectionism’s grip, stop seeing success as a zero-sum game, and shift into a mindset of true abundance—where you can actually celebrate others and yourself at the same time. Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: http://unfuckyourbrain.com/380

As women, we’ve been conditioned to put ourselves last, and if you hold any marginalized identities, the world piles on even more ways to tell you you’re not enough. But the tools I'm re-sharing this week, radical self-love and exquisite self-care, are your antidote—your way to reject the oppressive systems that want to keep you small and doubting your worth. I'm breaking down what radical self-love and exquisite self-care actually mean, why they’re deeply political acts, and how they expose the hidden, harmful beliefs you’ve been carrying. We’ll tackle the thought patterns standing between you and the self-love you deserve—and I’ll show you how to start practicing it in a way that feels radical and real. Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://schoolofnewfeministthought.com/379

Are you unknowingly sabotaging your time management? As women, we’re trained to take on responsibility for everything—other people’s feelings, outcomes we can’t control, and tasks that were never ours to begin with. The result? Exhaustion, overwhelm, and decisions that don’t serve us. In this episode, I’m sharing how over-responsibility snuck into my own plans for 2025 and what I did to get back on track. I’ll walk you through the self-coaching process I used to uncover and shift the sneaky thought patterns holding me back—like feeling responsible for other people’s feelings or thinking I don’t deserve to fully use my privileges. If you’re ready to ditch the overwork cycle and start reclaiming your time, this episode is for you! Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://schoolofnewfeministthought.com/378

Do you feel like you’re carrying the weight of the world on your shoulders? Like you’re responsible for everyone and everything around you? Society has trained women to believe our worth depends on managing everyone else’s thoughts, feelings, and happiness. But this over-responsibility? It’s a dream stealer, an energy drainer, and a massive life suck. In this Greatest Hits episode, I’m diving into how over-responsibility shows up in our lives and why it keeps us stuck. From obsessing over appearances to taking on outcomes we can’t control, this constant brain spin has us chasing impossible standards instead of living the lives we want. Tune in to uncover how over-responsibility is holding you back—and learn what it takes to finally let it go and reclaim your energy for your dreams. Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://schoolofnewfeministthought.com/377