UnF*ck Your Brain: Feminist Self-Help for Everyone

In this week’s Coaching Hotline episode, I’m answering two listener questions about fear, self-acceptance, and making empowered decisions. The first question explores the fear of being replaceable in a relationship, and we dive into why that fear is rooted in deeper beliefs about your uniqueness. Next, I coach a listener who’s terrified to undergo a second rhinoplasty after being unhappy with her first procedure. I talk about why changing external circumstances, like your appearance, won’t solve the internal struggle. Discover how learning to love yourself—just as you are—can create the lasting peace and confidence you’re seeking. Submit your own question here and it might get answered on a future episode: unfuckyourbrain.com/coachinghotline Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://schoolofnewfeministthought.com/411

The doors to The Feminist Self-Help Society are closing soon—and this is your final chance to join before 2026! If you’re ready to stop putting things off and start making real progress before 2026, tune in for all the details on how The Society can help you become the person you said you wanted to be at the start of the year. Take the leap now—your future self will thank you! Click her to sign up before the doors close: https://the-school-of-new-feminist-thought.captivate.fm/closing

What if your fear of making a mistake is actually keeping you from creating the biggest impact of your life? In this episode, I dive into why the pressure to be perfect—and avoid harm—keeps us stuck. Whether it’s in relationships, business, or parenting, the desire to avoid mistakes leads to paralysis. You’ll learn why showing up fully, making mistakes, and being willing to learn from them lets you make a much bigger impact than not showing up at all. This episode will challenge you to break free from perfectionism, start acting from integrity—and get out of the paralyzing grip of fear. Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://schoolofnewfeministthought.com/410

In this week’s Coaching Hotline episode, I'm tackling a fascinating question about epigenetic trauma and how it intersects with thought work. I’m also answering a question from a listener whose ex-husband’s 20-year affair left her suspicious of her current partner. Both of these questions reveal how we let external circumstances—whether it’s scientific findings or past experiences—control our emotional lives. You’ll learn how to stop letting fear or past trauma dictate your decisions, how to manage relationship anxiety, and why trusting yourself is more important than putting your faith in outside forces. Submit your own question here and it might get answered on a future episode: unfuckyourbrain.com/coachinghotline Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://schoolofnewfeministthought.com/409

What if healing isn’t about reaching some perfect end point, but about constantly rebuilding relationships—with yourself, with others, and with the world around you? In this episode, I’m talking with Prentis Hemphill, bestselling author of What it Takes to Heal, about how healing is actually a radical, ongoing process. We dive into how healing connects to social change, and how we can start resisting the futures we don’t want while building the ones we actually do. You’ll hear about tapping into your body’s wisdom, making real change through local action, and practicing who you want to be, rather than waiting for some magical transformation. This conversation will remind you that, no matter how chaotic things get, we hold the power to create the futures we want, one step at a time. Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://schoolofnewfeministthought.com/408

In this week’s Coaching Hotline episode, I’m answering two listener questions about motivation, decision-making, and self-coaching. The first question explores why we avoid certain things, like relationships or hobbies, and how not having a clear “why” can keep us stuck. The second dives into the messy relationship between motivation and hobbies—specifically, why writing feels so dreadful sometimes. If you’ve ever wondered why your hobbies feel like a chore or why you’re not acting on what you really want, this episode will help you cut through the confusion. Tune in for simple, actionable insights that will help you clarify your thoughts and get out of your own way. Submit your own question here and it might get answered on a future episode: unfuckyourbrain.com/coachinghotline Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://schoolofnewfeministthought.com/407

Do you avoid making decisions because you're scared of repeating past mistakes? This week, I show you how to break that cycle and actually learn from your failures so you can make better decisions moving forward. Most of us are terrified of making mistakes, so we avoid risks, which keeps us stuck. But the truth is, mistakes aren’t the problem—it’s how we think about them. I’ll walk you through how to reflect on what went wrong, how to separate yourself from the shame of failure, and how to use that knowledge to make smarter, more confident decisions in the future. You’ll also learn how to stop telling yourself, “I can’t trust myself to make decisions,” and why this thought is holding you back. It’s time to stop avoiding mistakes and start seeing them as opportunities for growth. Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://schoolofnewfeministthought.com/406

Ever catch yourself thinking your ex was the one or that losing weight will solve all your problems? Our brains can hold onto these beliefs for years, creating stories about why we’re single or why we need to lose weight. But what if the real issue isn’t the thoughts themselves, but what we make them mean? In this Coaching Hotline episode, I’m breaking down why struggling with the same thoughts for years goes beyond just negative thinking. Identifying unhealthy thoughts isn’t enough—the real work is understanding how your beliefs about those thoughts are causing just as much suffering. Tune in to learn how to stop giving old thought patterns so much power and start creating the feelings you want in your life. Submit your own question here and it might get answered on a future episode: unfuckyourbrain.com/coachinghotline Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://schoolofnewfeministthought.com/405

In this week's Greatest Hits episode, I’m re-sharing 3 powerful takeaways from a recent event that have the potential to shift how you view yourself and your life. You'll hear how you have more creative potential than you realize, why resisting reality is the most painful thing you can put yourself through, and my best tips for building self-love. I’m also leaving you with one question I want you to contemplate and answer because, trust me, it is a total game changer. Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://schoolofnewfeministthought.com/404

In this weeks Coaching Hotline episode, I’m answering two listener questions that tackle different sides of mental resistance. The first deals with whether you should do thought work when you're struggling emotionally—what I call being on the "struggle bus." The second addresses the challenge of sticking with decisions when your brain constantly wants to chase the next exciting thing. You'll hear some strategies to help you build commitment, even when you’re not feeling motivated, and learn why processing emotions should come before trying to change your thoughts. Submit your own question here and it might get answered on a future episode: unfuckyourbrain.com/coachinghotline Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://schoolofnewfeministthought.com/402

Do you ever feel stuck on your journey, unsure of how far you’ve really come? In this episode, I’m sharing three key takeaways from a previous live event, starting with why it’s so hard to accurately assess where you are—and how that holds you back from making real progress. We’ll also dive into why something “feeling true” doesn’t mean it is actually true, and how shifting this mindset can help you release the limiting beliefs keeping you stuck. Finally, I’ll explain why you’ve got to be willing to be wrong in order to grow. You do not want to miss these takeaways, so grab your headphones and let’s go! Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://schoolofnewfeministthought.com/402

In this week’s Listener Q&A, I’m answering two questions that reveal how we give away our emotional power to others' opinions and societal expectations. One listener struggles with body image after years of parental criticism—believing their worth is tied to their size. Another feels frustrated by always initiating sex in their marriage—turning intimacy into resentment. Both questions highlight a key issue: we let other people’s actions dictate how we feel about ourselves. Whether it’s believing your worth is tied to your body size—or thinking your partner needs to initiate intimacy for it to “count”—you’re giving away your power. Tune in to learn how to take it back. Submit your own question here and it might get answered on a future episode: unfuckyourbrain.com/coachinghotline Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://schoolofnewfeministthought.com/401

Socialization tells us that happiness comes from hitting the right milestones—prestigious career, perfect body, ideal partner. We’re taught that once we check off all the boxes and achieve enough, fulfillment will follow. But is that really true? After 400 episodes of Unfuck Your Brain, I’ve completely transformed my life—but not by following the blueprint society handed me. The real shift happened when I stopped chasing the generic dream everyone else told me I should want and started figuring out what I actually wanted for myself. In today’s episode, I’m sharing the three things I’ve learned that actually helped me build my dream life, plus the concrete steps that can help you start creating yours. Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: schoolofnewfeministthought.com/400 Mentioned in this episode: It's Time to Stop Caring What Other People Think- And I'll Show You How. Ever feel like your brain refuses to SHUT UP about what everyone else might be thinking about you? Join me in an encore of the free training: How to Stop Caring What Other People Think When: Tuesday, July 1 from 12:00–1:30 p.m. ET Cost: FREE. (Yes, for real. It’s free.) (A limited-time replay will be available if you can’t attend live.) Click here to sign up: https://the-school-of-new-feminist-thought.captivate.fm/stop-caring How to Stop Caring

Confidence is often talked about in the online empowerment space, but most people misunderstand it. We think of confidence as a feeling—a temporary emotion we either have or don’t have. But here’s the truth: confidence is much more than a feeling. In fact, the feeling of confidence is the last part—and the least important part. In this episode, I’m breaking down why treating confidence as just a feeling keeps us stuck, and what you really need to focus on to create lasting, transformative confidence in your life. Listen in as I explain how to create the foundation of confidence you’ve been missing. Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: schoolofnewfeministthought.com/399 Mentioned in this episode: Learn How to Stop Caring About What Other People Think on June 24! Ever feel like your brain refuses to SHUT UP about what everyone else might be thinking about you? Join me in an encore of the free training: How to Stop Caring What Other People Think When: Friday, June 24 from 12:00–1:30 p.m. ET Cost: FREE. (Yes, for real. It’s free.) (A limited-time replay will be available if you can’t attend live.) How to Stop Caring

Does it constantly feel like you’re measuring yourself against some impossible standard? Whether it's your career, your relationships, or your body, that feeling of inadequacy can keep you stuck, unable to move forward. In today’s episode, I’m breaking down why insecurity isn’t the real issue—it’s the lack of emotional security within yourself. When we’re constantly comparing ourselves to external expectations, we feel unsafe, unworthy, and disconnected from who we really are. Tune in to learn how to shift your mindset, build emotional safety, and start living in alignment with your own values. Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: schoolofnewfeministthought.com/398

I’m getting vulnerable and inviting you to do the same -- at the beautiful Four Seasons St. Louis later this June! On this bonus episode, we’re diving into the power of live coaching and how being in the room with others for deep, transformational work can create real breakthroughs. I'm also sharing a rare opportunity to join my live coaching event, The Symposium happening the weekend of June 27th. With firsthand stories from clients who’ve experienced life-changing breakthroughs, here is a sneak peek into what’s possible when you immerse yourself in this work. A few tickets are still available - so grab yours and book your flight before you miss out! It's happening June 27-29, 2025 at the Four Seasons in St. Louis, Missouri. Go to unfuckyourbrain.com/symposium or text your email to +1 (347) 997-1784. Code word is symposium.

Are you exhausted from constantly worrying about what other people think of you? Whether it’s your boss, your family, or even strangers, this fixation zaps your energy and keeps you from being your authentic self. But here's the truth: the more you focus on their opinions, the less you connect with your own. In this episode, I’m diving into why “just letting it go” never works, and why your brain can’t simply switch off these thoughts. I’ll show you how to uncover the deeper beliefs fueling your worries, and teach you how to replace them with thoughts that actually support you. Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://schoolofnewfeministthought.com/397 Mentioned in this episode: Free Training Coming Up! Ever feel like your brain refuses to SHUT UP about what everyone else might be thinking about you? Join me in my new, free training: How to Stop Caring What Other People Think When: Friday, June 6 from 12:00–1:30 p.m. ET Cost: FREE. (Yes, for real. It’s free.) (A limited-time replay will be available if you can’t attend live.) How to Stop Caring

Why do some opinions bounce right off us, while others stick like taffy, lingering in our minds and draining our energy? This isn’t random—it’s actually a clue to how our brains process feedback and, more importantly, what we really believe about ourselves. In this episode, I’m diving into why we get fixated on some people’s opinions, even when they shouldn’t matter as much, and why others’ judgments just slide right by. The truth is, it’s not about the other person’s opinion—it’s about the internal fears and doubts we haven’t fully addressed. Listen in to learn why we think this way and how to break this pattern. Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://schoolofnewfeministthought.com/396 Mentioned in this episode: Free Training Coming Up! Ever feel like your brain refuses to SHUT UP about what everyone else might be thinking about you? Join me in my new, free training: How to Stop Caring What Other People Think When: Friday, June 6 from 12:00–1:30 p.m. ET Cost: FREE. (Yes, for real. It’s free.) (A limited-time replay will be available if you can’t attend live.) How to Stop Caring

Have you ever had a man ask why you care so much about what others think? And then found yourself at a loss for how to explain why it matters so deeply? There’s a reason women tend to fixate on others’ opinions, and it’s not simply a lack of confidence or insecurity. This week, I’m diving into why this preoccupation with others’ opinions is so powerful for women—and why it’s not silly or superficial to acknowledge its hold over us. You'll hear the first step in breaking free from this pattern (hint: it isn’t to judge ourselves) and how to spot the impossible, contradictory standards women are taught to meet. Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://schoolofnewfeministthought.com/395

Ever feel like your brain refuses to SHUT UP about what everyone else might be thinking about you? The bad news is that making everyone happy and controlling what they think about you is literally impossible to accomplish and you will die trying! Sorry, but it’s true. The good news is you can actually stop trying to manage what everyone else thinks about you at every moment … and feel better about yourself than you ever have before. That’s what I’m here to teach you in my brand new workshop: How to Stop Caring What Other People Think. When: Friday, June 6 from 12:00–1:30 p.m. ET Cost: FREE. (Yes, for real. It’s free.) (A limited-time replay will be available if you can’t attend live.) Click here to save your spot: unfuckyourbrain.com/caring/utm_source=podcast