Great Sex Podcast

Summary In this episode, Dr. Heather England discusses male masturbation and the importance of using the right technique. She advises using lube, a lighter touch, and a slower motion during masturbation to create neural pathways that mimic partnered sex. She acknowledges that her opinion may be controversial but encourages listeners to consider the information and apply it to their own lives. Takeaways 🔥 Learn How to use Sex Toys to Enhance your Pleasure. Toy Talk Sex Toy Course available at www.lovefilledlife.com/ToyTalk 🙂 Sign up for my free tips about strengthening love 💕, sex, and self-esteem at www.lovefilledlife.com 💕 CLICK HERE to submit a question or topic for an episode.

Summary In this episode, Dr. Heather England discusses the process of transitioning from a non-sexual state to a sexual one. She emphasizes the importance of consent and empowerment in one's sexuality. Dr. England provides practical tips and activities to help individuals get in the mood for sex, such as engaging in activities that create closeness with their partner, thinking about past fulfilling sexual experiences, and exploring fantasies and erotica. She also highlights the significance of mental and emotional preparation, including self-talk and relaxation techniques. The episode concludes with a challenge for listeners to identify ways to transition themselves into a sexual mindset. Takeaways Chapters 00:00 Setting the Stage 03:48 Transitioning from Being Non-Sexual to Sexual 07:57 Activities to Get in the Mood 13:19 Mental and Emotional Preparation 15:09 Exploring Fantasies and Erotica ________________________________________________ 🔥 Learn How to use Sex Toys to Enhance your Pleasure. Toy Talk Sex Toy Course available at www.lovefilledlife.com/ToyTalk 🙂 Sign up for my free tips about strengthening love 💕, sex, and self-esteem at www.lovefilledlife.com 💕 CLICK HERE to submit a question or topic for an episode.

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Summary In this episode, Dr. Heather England interviews Beverly Rouse, a licensed clinical professional counselor and executive coach, about therapy and sex therapy. Beverly shares her journey from the military to becoming a therapist and explains the role of therapy in helping individuals navigate challenges and improve their relationships. She also discusses the misconceptions about sex therapy and highlights the importance of self-care in maintaining overall well-being. Takeaways Chapters 00:00 Introduction and Background 02:24 Becoming a Therapist 05:16 Challenges of Deployment 08:11 Asking for Help 10:35 The Role of Therapy 14:51 What is Sex Therapy? Ms. Rouse's Contact Information: Empowering Insight, LLC Email: empoweringinsight@gmail.com Her LinkedIn ________________________________________________ 🔥 Learn How to use Sex Toys to Enhance your Pleasure. Toy Talk Sex Toy Course available at www.lovefilledlife.com/ToyTalk 🙂 Sign up for my free tips about strengthening love 💕, sex, and self-esteem at www.lovefilledlife.com 🚀 Take Charge of Erectile Dysfunction confidential course at https://www.lovefilledlife.com/erectile-dysfunction-masterclass ❤️ Get my FREE resource 10 Days to Better Relationships at https://www.lovefilledlife.com/10-Days-to-Better-Relationships 🔥 Get the FREE guide to 69 Ways to Spice Up Your Sex Life at www.lovefilledlife.com/69-ways 💕 CLICK HERE to submit a question or topic for an episode. Mentioned in this episode: Toy Talk Sex Toy Course

Summary In this episode, Dr. Heather England discusses the importance of talking about sex and challenges the societal norms around intercourse. She emphasizes the need for open communication and negotiation in sexual relationships. Dr. England also highlights the unrealistic expectations set by Hollywood and the pressure it puts on both men and women. She encourages listeners to explore other pleasurable and connecting activities beyond intercourse. Takeaways #sex #relationships #communication #intercourse #pleasure #connection #Intimacy #RelationshipGoals #SexualWellness #Empowerment #SelfEsteem #SexualDiversity #OpenCommunication #RedefiningSex ________________________________________________ 🔥 Learn How to use Sex Toys to Enhance your Pleasure. Toy Talk Sex Toy Course available at www.lovefilledlife.com/ToyTalk 🙂 Sign up for my free tips about strengthening love 💕, sex, and self-esteem at www.lovefilledlife.com 🚀 Take Charge of Erectile Dysfunction confidential course at https://www.lovefilledlife.com/erectile-dysfunction-masterclass ❤️ Get my FREE resource 10 Days to Better Relationships at https://www.lovefilledlife.com/10-Days-to-Better-Relationships 🔥 Get the FREE guide to 69 Ways to Spice Up Your Sex Life at www.lovefilledlife.com/69-ways 💕 CLICK HERE to submit a question or topic for an episode.

Summary In this episode, Dr. Heather England addresses a listener's question about not wanting to have intercourse with their partner. She emphasizes the importance of consent and the negative effects of having sex when not desired. Dr. England explores various reasons for not wanting intercourse, including lack of enjoyment, past traumas, societal influences, and unmet needs. She encourages open communication and relationship negotiation to find a solution that satisfies both partners. Dr. England also suggests exploring other pleasurable activities and addressing pain during intercourse. Lastly, she discusses the concept of viewing sex as a gift for one's partner. Takeaways Chapters 00:00 Introduction: Question about not wanting intercourse 03:19: Reasons for not wanting intercourse 07:19: Exploring underlying issues 11:34: Negotiating and compromising in the relationship 13:00: Finding other pleasurable activities 13:59: Addressing pain during intercourse 19:10: Viewing sex as a gift 19:38: Conclusion and call to action ________________________________________________ 🙂 Sign up for my free tips about strengthening love 💕, sex, and self-esteem at www.lovefilledlife.com 🔥 Learn How to use Sex Toys to Enhance your Pleasure. Toy Talk Sex Toy Course available at www.lovefilledlife.com/ToyTalk 🚀 Take Charge of Erectile Dysfunction confidential course at https://www.lovefilledlife.com/erectile-dysfunction-masterclass ❤️ Get my FREE resource 10 Days to Better Relationships at https://www.lovefilledlife.com/10-Days-to-Better-Relationships 🔥 Get the FREE guide to 69 Ways to Spice Up Your Sex Life at www.lovefilledlife.com/69-ways 💕 CLICK HERE to submit a question or topic for an episode. Mentioned in this episode: Toy Talk Sex Toy Course

In this episode, Heather shares an announcement about rebranding the podcast and then provides a tip for Valentine's Day. The tip focuses on making your partner feel valued and cherished. Takeaways

Everything You Wanted to Know Summary In this episode, Dr. Heather England and Michelle Tangeman discuss postpartum anxiety and depression. They explore the typical responses and challenges that new parents face after having a baby, including hormonal changes and the impact on relationships. They differentiate between baby blues and postpartum depression, emphasizing the importance of seeking help if symptoms persist beyond two weeks. The prevalence of postpartum mood disorders is highlighted, with one in five moms experiencing a perinatal mood and anxiety disorder. The episode concludes with practical tips for supporting a loved one and finding a competent therapist for postpartum mood disorders. Takeaways Guest Bio: Michelle Tangeman is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist and Board Certified Behavioral Analyst in private practice in the LA area. She is a child and family therapist in private practice at Michelle Tangeman Behavioral Health. Michelle has extensive experience in individualized behavior intervention, Functional Behavior Assessments, school-based services, family-focused intervention, early start services, and social skills training and provides these services to families across Ventura and Los Angeles counties. She has also completed the training as part of the Postpartum Support International’s Advanced Perinatal Mental Health Psychotherapy Training Program. Additionally, Michelle founded an online education company, Thriving Toddler focused on helping as many people as possible become the parents they want to be. Michelle is also a podcast host and the co-founder of the Parenting Understood podcast. Michelle and her co-host are passionate about teaching parents about evidence-based interventions grounded in science to make a positive impact on the parent-child relationship. Resources: Beyond the Blues: Understanding and Treating Prenatal and Postpartum Depression & Anxiety by Shoshana S. Bennett PhD and Pec Indman PA,EdD PostPartum Support International

Summary In this episode, Dr. Heather discusses the difference between deal breakers and non-deal breakers in relationships. Deal breakers are actions or behaviors that breach core values and create irreparable cracks in the relationship, while non-deal breakers are annoyances that do not warrant ending the relationship. Dr. Heather provides examples of both deal breakers and non-deal breakers, such as abuse, opposing goals, financial disagreements, and differing tastes in music or hobbies. She also offers strategies for managing non-deal breakers, including processing feelings, changing mindset, practicing gratitude, showing compassion, and being curious. Dr. Heather emphasizes the importance of personal growth and transformation in strengthening relationships. Takeaways Learn more at www.lovefilledlife.com

Summary This episode explores the impact of medications on sexual functioning. Listen as we explore various categories of medications, including antihistamines, antidepressants, anti-anxiety medications, and others that can affect sexual desire, arousal, and orgasm. The episode emphasizes the importance of open communication with healthcare providers and offers suggestions for managing medication-related sexual side effects. It also highlights the need for self-advocacy and seeking support from mental health professionals. Please note this episode does not offer medical advice but rather highlights potential side-effects from over-the-counter and prescriptions medications on your sexual functioning. You should discuss your concerns with your medical provider. Takeaways

Summary In this episode, Dr. Heather England discusses body image and its impact on self-esteem and sexual expression with Cassie Willnauer, a licensed therapist specializing in body image and sexuality. They explore the Health at Every Size movement, challenging negative body image thoughts, and the importance of body acceptance in relationships. They also discuss the need for individualized approaches to sexuality and the role of mindfulness in overcoming distractions during sex. The episode provides valuable insights and practical tips for improving body image and enhancing sexual experiences. Takeaways Learn more about Cassie Willnauer at https://www.cassiewillnauer.com/ Books The Body Is Not An Apology by Sonya Renee Taylor, What We Don't Talk About When We Talk About Fat by Aubrey Gordon "You Just Need To Lose Weight" and 19 Other Myths About Fat People by Aubrey Gordon Come As You Are by Emily Nagoski, Ph.D.. Accessible Sex Devices: Extra Long Handled Vibrator Liberator Wedge Pillow

Is happiness the key to a good life? What if the key to a good life is really something else? Let’s explore what matters for your long-term happiness and health. In this episode, Dr. Heather England explores the key to a good life and long-term happiness. She discusses the findings from a long-term study on adult development and emphasizes the importance of cultivating good relationships. Meaningful connections with family, friends, and romantic partners contribute significantly to overall happiness and well-being. The study also highlights the importance of emotional intimacy within long-term relationships and the detrimental effects of toxic relationships. Loneliness is identified as a major public health challenge, with strong social support networks protecting against mental health issues. The impact of childhood relationships on adult health and happiness is also discussed. Dr. England concludes by encouraging listeners to take action and nurture their relationships for a better life. Takeaways "The Good Life" by Robert Waldinger and Marc Schulz. Download 10 Days to Great Relationships at www.heatherengland.com or www.lovefilledlife.com

In this episode, Heather discusses setting intentions for the new year instead of traditional resolutions. She shares her experience of choosing a word as an intention and how it has positively impacted her life. Heather emphasizes the importance of being present and focusing on relationships. She encourages listeners to choose their own word of the year and explains how it can bring about positive change. Takeaways Instead of setting traditional resolutions, consider choosing a word as an intention for the year. Being present in the moment can lead to greater happiness and fulfillment. Prioritizing relationships over work can bring about a more balanced and fulfilling life. Choosing a word of the year can profoundly impact personal growth and well-being. For more information about strengthening relationships and creating your best life, visit www.lovefilledlife.com For a fun way to close out 2023 and organize your thoughts and goals for 2024, check out this cool planner on Etsy by YarBar Studios.

I am taking a brief break over the holidays so today's podcast is a replay of one of our most popular episodes. Strengthening your relationship with your partner is important even if your relationship is going well and there are easy things you can intentionally do to create a fabulous relationship. ***Ready to spice up your sex life? Get my FREE guide “69 Ways to Spice Up Your Sex Life” by going to www.lovefilledlife.com/69ways.***

Please Provide Feedback About the Podcast and What Direction You'd Like it to Take. 🙂 Click here To provide Feedback for the Podcast Click Here To Submit a Podcast Topic We are all looking for ways to manage our stress levels and to make important decisions in our lives. I want to share one of my favorite ways to make decisions while managing my stress and negative thoughts, and I think it's one of the best ways. And no, I'm not going to tell you to meditate. Or practice mindfulness. Or take deep breaths or make a list of pros and cons. Although those are wonderful tools that truly are helpful. What I'm going to suggest is that you learn the fine art of giving yourself permission. Permission? For what? I’m sure that’s what you are thinking. But yes, you heard that right. I think you should learn how to give yourself permission to do a host of things in your life. Maybe you need to give yourself permission to do something big like end your relationship or your marriage. Or you need to give yourself permission to quit your job, or to retire, or to get a new job. Perhaps you need to give yourself permission to end a toxic friendship or to stand up for yourself with a difficult person. Maybe you need to give yourself permission to skip a social event and spend the night hunkered down on the couch in your PJ's watching a good movie What if you need to give yourself permission to share your feelings with your partner and tell them you need them to show up for you – or that you need to start counseling with or without them. Or maybe you struggle with perfectionism. And you need to give yourself permission to not be perfect. To not have the perfect house or the perfect makeup. Or the perfect car. Or the perfect vacation. Or the perfect children. That can be an awful lot of pressure on not just you, but also your children. What if you need to give yourself permission to sit down and relax and not be a whirling dervish of activity? Perhaps you need to give yourself permission to ask for help when you need it. Maybe it's something simple like giving yourself permission to sign up for piano lessons even though you are 45. Or take a painting class or start learning how to knit. Whatever it is, it's important. Everyone needs to give themselves permission to do something and this is such a simple little concept, but it can be so life-changing. First, let me give you a little background about this idea. Many years ago, I was inspired by Dr. Brené Brown's research on shame and vulnerability. She was catapulted into popularity by a Ted Talk. I completed all the requirements to become a certified facilitator of her therapy materials. If you've never heard of Brené Brown, she has wonderful books about overcoming perfectionism, managing shame, and learning better ways to be in relationships with others. You can read about them on my Resource page on lovefilledlife.com. What I really like about her is that all of her content is backed by research. So she's not just blowing smoke like many people do, including all of the people with no training that are sharing mental health content on social media. One of the tips in her...

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On today's episode, Cooper and I talk about Taylor Swift and Travis Kelce's relationship and whether or not we think they will stay together. We think Taylor Swift and Travis Kelce have what it takes to remain a couple in a long-term, committed relationship. Plus, we are basing our opinion on the attributes of healthy couples that they both demonstrate. You won't want to miss this! 🔥 Toy Talk - Sex Toy Course will be available on 12/11 at www.lovefilledlife.com/ToyTalk

Sometimes, the once vibrant and exciting connection in a long-term relationship fades or dwindles due to a multitude of reasons. Couples find themselves confined to the boundaries of routine and predictability as they deal with the challenge of maintaining love and a healthy sex life in a long-term relationship. In today's episode, I delve into a topic that intrigues many of my clients – the secrets to maintaining love in a long-term relationship. To shed light on this, I have a special guest, my neighbor Linda, who candidly shares insights into her own relationship journey and sexuality. Marriage, goals, and preparation for the future. Linda is in her second marriage of 26 years with her husband Dennis which is why I consider her as a valuable guest for this episode. The couple exemplifies living life to the fullest, not only in adhering to family values but also in their evident love during vacations and daily interactions as they navigate a blended family. They decided to get married four months after they met. Linda recalls their early journey as a fun pursuit as they discussed their dreams, goals and even marriage with no option for divorce. She said that although her husband is not perfect, he definitely comes close, as he always strives to make her happy and make her feel loved. And despite occasional fights, they are determined to continue having a happy marriage which is why they always make up and start fresh with a new sense of determination every time. After all, life has its ups and downs. Setting goals in relationships is crucial. For Linda and her husband, they meticulously plan their financial contributions, such as but not limited to donations and gifts for their special needs son. Equally important is that they establish relationship goals that involve preparing for the future. This deliberate and thoughtful approach to setting goals not only enhances the quality of our relationship but also provides a roadmap for shared aspirations and individual growth. Building a strong and healthy relationship through communication and mutual respect. Linda and Dennis have intentionally cultivated a strong and enduring love through several key practices. They prioritize playfulness and silliness in their relationship, going out of their way to make each other feel important every day. Their expressions of love extend beyond mere practicalities and encompass appreciation for each other's presence and special efforts. Gratitude plays a significant role in their relationship, with the couple expressing thanks for even the smallest gestures, fostering an environment where annoyance finds little room to thrive. Little things greatly matter. Although they seem to be minor acts of love, they accumulate to create a meaningful and fulfilling life. Linda also emphasizes the importance of playfulness in maintaining a healthy sexual connection. Their approach to sex involves spontaneity, playful discussions, and an overall lighthearted attitude because for them, a healthy sexual relationship should incorporate elements of fun and enjoyment. Sexual desire and intimacy in older age and maintaining love and a healthy sex life in a long-term relationship. The sad truth is that there are still assumptions that society makes about sexual activity in older couples. There is also an unfortunate stigma surrounding women’s sexual desires brought about by various historical and cultural factors. At present, many women are still ashamed to talk about sex. That is why it is important that we encourage open communication to help others understand and express their desires better. Many partners in relationships often lack the necessary knowledge and education about each other’s bodies. This knowledge gap can lead to unsatisfying sexual experiences and issues within the relationship. Linda shares her insights from...

It's the holidays! On top of everything else on your to-do list, there's shopping, cooking, cleaning, decorating the house, spending money, and being extra nice to Aunt Ethel at your family get-together. You guessed it, it’s holiday time! It’s the start of the holiday season and for many people, that means family gatherings, lots of demands, social comparison, and high stress. Today, I want to share 5 tips to help you enjoy your holiday season and minimize the amount of stress you feel. Sometimes, it’s easy to forget that for many people, the holidays can exacerbate their loneliness and grief for loved ones they’ve lost. Although the holidays are filled with joy, they can also be super stressful. It’s easy to get caught up in comparing yourself to others and trying to be perfect. That right there is a recipe for anxiety. I want to share 5 strategies that can help you minimize stress and enjoy this wonderful time of the year. 1. Don't Do Social Comparison It's easy to fall into the trap of comparing our holiday experiences to those we see on social media. We are bombarded with images of the perfect houses, the perfect decorations, the perfect turkeys, and the perfect families sitting around the table. And if that wasn’t bad enough, when you open social media, you often see posts from someone you know who is jetting off to a beach vacation. It’s easy to be jealous. Remember Teddy Roosevelt's famous quote: Comparison is the thief of joy. Instead of focusing on what others are doing, reflect on what brings you and your loved ones joy. Embrace the beauty of your traditions and create memories that resonate with your values. 2. Set Boundaries and Limits The holidays often come with invitations, events, and commitments that can be overwhelming. It's okay to set boundaries and limits. Setting boundaries teaches people how to treat you and helps you to take care of yourself. Whenever anyone asks me to do something or commit to something that will require extra work, I take a pause and say, “Let me think about that and get back to you.” That way, I’m not on the spot feeling pressure to overcommit and I can truly think through everything. Prioritize the events that truly matter to you and your loved ones. Learn to gracefully decline invitations and understand that saying 'no' is a form of self-care, allowing you to fully enjoy the moments you choose to participate in. 3. Delegate You don't have to carry the holiday load alone. You can delegate tasks and responsibilities to family members or friends. Whether it's meal preparation, decorating, or planning activities, involving others not only lightens your load but also creates a sense of shared joy and connection. I struggle with this, partly because I have more time than my adult children and as a mom, I want to take care of them. But if you do everything yourself, not only do you run yourself ragged, but you also rob them of the joy of doing something to contribute. 4. Take Time for Yourself Amidst the hustle and bustle, don't forget to prioritize self-care. Schedule moments of solitude to recharge. Whether it's a quiet cup of tea, a walk outside, calling a friend, going to the gym, or simply taking a few deep breaths, giving yourself the gift of time and space can do wonders for your mental well-being. Sometimes, when it’s been a tough day, I take a long shower or a bath and I crawl in bed early with a book. I’ve learned what helps me to relax and recharge, and instead of doing one more thing on my to-do list, I know if I take the time to do some self-care, I’ll feel a lot better. 5. Move Your Body Physical activity is a powerful stress reliever. Incorporate movement into your holiday routine, whether it's a brisk walk,...

High sensitivity shapes the emotional experiences, perceptions, and interactions of approximately 20% of the population, spanning across diverse cultures globally. From intimacy to communication, the deeply felt emotions and heightened responses to sensory inputs influence how highly sensitive individuals engage with their partners. This trait often leads to a preference for deep, meaningful connections, while also making them susceptible to feeling overwhelmed. This episode is truly insightful as I am joined by Elizabeth "Biz" Cush – a women's life coach, licensed counselor, and the brilliant mind behind the Awaken Your Wise Woman podcast. Her holistic approach integrates body, mind, and spirit, fostering a beautiful, enjoyable life for her clients. And in this episode, we delve into the impact of high sensitivity on relationships and sex life. Highly sensitive people and their unique traits. Highly sensitive people (HSP's) refer to a genetically predisposed trait, with about 20% of the global population being classified as highly sensitive people. Highly sensitive people process sensory input—whether noise, smell, taste, touch, or emotions—differently. This distinct sensory processing results in a deeply emotional experience, a preference for profound connections, and a deeper and more deliberate processing of information before forming opinions or feelings about it. Interestingly, being highly sensitive doesn't strictly align with introversion; one can be an extrovert and still be highly sensitive, needing both social interaction and recharge time. With respect to relationships, being in a relationship where one partner is highly sensitive and the other isn't can sometimes lead to conflict, especially in scenarios where the highly sensitive individual feels overwhelmed or anxious in crowded or noisy settings that the non-sensitive person enjoys. Are you a highly sensitive person? To identify if someone is an HSP, tests and quizzes are available, such as the one on Dr. Elaine Aron's website. Dr. Aron has conducted extensive research on this. Take the self-test here: https://hsperson.com/test/ Being an HSP impacts sexual relationships. Navigating sexual relationships as a highly sensitive person, particularly for highly sensitive women, poses unique challenges. The HSP personality trait, an aspect of the nervous system, renders individuals acutely aware of various sensory inputs, often impacting their experiences in intimate relationships. For highly sensitive women, the intricacies of their sensory processing sensitivity can deeply influence their sexual relations. Although HSPs can enjoy sex, this acute awareness can lead to a heightened vulnerability to negative emotions and feeling overwhelmed, particularly in scenarios where their partner's desires may conflict with their own comfort levels. Non-HSPs need to understand the unique needs of their HSP partners. Balancing the needs and desires of the self and the romantic partner is a delicate yet crucial aspect of enjoyable sex for those with a highly sensitive nature. Highly sensitive individuals can sometimes feel overwhelmed. They experience heightened sensitivity to smells, making cleanliness particularly important for their partners. According to Biz, even the texture of fabrics could affect physical closeness. Communication regarding what types...