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Hi Podsquad. Today, we’re honored to sit down with Pete Buttigieg to discuss the four magic words that could change the election and the hearts of those you love. Discover: -The powerful antidote to the political tribalism dividing families and communities -How to make love your guiding force in the crucial days ahead -The surprising truth about why even Pete is exhausted by constant political talk—and how to finally move past it -Why politics are personal, and how they impact every part of our lives More on Pete: The first openly gay person confirmed to serve in a president’s Cabinet, Buttigieg previously served two terms as mayor of his hometown, South Bend, Indiana, where he worked across the aisle to transform the city’s future. Household income grew, poverty fell, and unemployment was cut in half.He also served for seven years as an officer in the U.S. Navy Reserve, taking a leave of absence from the mayor’s office for a deployment to Afghanistan in 2014.The son of Joseph Buttigieg, who immigrated to the United States from Malta, and Jennifer Anne Montgomery, a fifth-generation Hoosier, Buttigieg is a graduate of Harvard University and Oxford, where he was a Rhodes Scholar and completed a degree in philosophy, politics, and economics. He lives with his husband Chasten, their two children, Gus and Penelope, and their dog. To learn more about listener data and our privacy practices visit: https://www.audacyinc.com/privacy-policy Learn more about your ad choices. Visit https://podcastchoices.com/adchoices

What We Don’t Talk About: Raising Older Kids Glennon, Abby and Amanda discuss the nuances and complexities of being parents to older children. Discover: Glennon’s experience losing herself in parenting Amanda recalls the moment she saw her Dad as a human being How to support your kid’s individuation Finding belonging outside of the parental role To learn more about listener data and our privacy practices visit: https://www.audacyinc.com/privacy-policy Learn more about your ad choices. Visit https://podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Glennon, Abby, and Amanda remember – and share! – the best advice they’ve ever received: - How to honor your needs and become the ultimate expert of you; - Why we all need a friend who believes in our greatness; - How to encourage your kids to live open-hearted; and - Why Glennon’s truest thing is that she doesn’t know anything. Plus, we hear from two pod treasures – Sara Bareilles and Glennon’s 7th grade government teacher, Mrs. Yalen – on their best advice. To learn more about listener data and our privacy practices visit: https://www.audacyinc.com/privacy-policy Learn more about your ad choices. Visit https://podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Gillian Anderson: How to Get What You Want (in Bed and in Life) Icon Gillian Anderson joins Glennon, Abby, and Amanda to talk about everything from sexual fantasies to why she says “F you” to wellness culture. With wit, honesty, and an intoxicating spirit of rebellion, Gillian inspires us to ask for what we want—both in the bedroom and in life. This is a conversation that will make you feel bolder and more connected to your own desires. -How our fantasies reflect the culture we live in; -Why rebelling against societal norms can be so freeing; and -The emotional moments that left Gillian in tears. About Gillian: Gillian Anderson is an award-winning film, television and theater actor, producer and director. Among other honors, she has won two Primetime Emmy Awards, two Golden Globe Awards, three Screen Actors Guild Awards and an Evening Standard Theatre Award. In addition to her acting work, Gillian is also globally recognized as a respected activist and charity campaigner, previously co-authored the Sunday Times bestseller We: A Manifesto for Women Everywhere with Jennifer Nadel, and in 2023 founded the wellness drinks brand G-Spot which encourages women to embrace their unique power. In 2016 Anderson was appointed an honorary OBE (Order of the British Empire) for her services to drama. She lives in London with her three children. To learn more about listener data and our privacy practices visit: https://www.audacyinc.com/privacy-policy Learn more about your ad choices. Visit https://podcastchoices.com/adchoices

357. The Power of No to Protect Your Peace Glennon, Amanda, and Abby are back with practical tips and tools to help you shift your Yeses and Maybes into Nos, while still being kind and even increasing connections. Discover: -The game-changing shift from "I can’t" to "I don’t"; -How to say No and avoid both current and future FOMO; -Practical examples and phrases you can implement to make saying No easier; and -The shocking statistic on the difference explaining your ‘No’ makes. To listen to part one of the conversation, check out episode 356, How to Say No To learn more about listener data and our privacy practices visit: https://www.audacyinc.com/privacy-policy Learn more about your ad choices. Visit https://podcastchoices.com/adchoices

In honor of Breast Cancer Awareness month – 25 weeks post surgery and outrageously grateful to be cancer free – Amanda revisits an episode from the messy middle of her breast cancer diagnosis. In this raw conversation, she talks candidly through her fears while trying to figure out what really matters for her health and life. This is a powerful conversation to share with any breast cancer survivor anyone in the messy middle of battling it now. To listen to the first part of this conversation with Amanda, go to: Episode 309 Amanda’s Diagnosis & What’s Next (Pt. 1). And for more episodes on Breast Cancer Awareness, please also check out: Episode 316 Amanda Returns Post Surgery: Here’s What She Wants You To Know Episode 317 What Amanda’s Learned About Life, Love & Community (Post Surgery Pt 2) Episode 320 Early Detection, Mammograms & Breast Cancer Care with Dr. Rachel Brem Episode 321 Expert Advice on Genetic Testing, Cancer Prevention & Care Disparities with Dr. Rachel Brem To learn more about listener data and our privacy practices visit: https://www.audacyinc.com/privacy-policy Learn more about your ad choices. Visit https://podcastchoices.com/adchoices

356. How to Say No Glennon, Amanda, and Abby tackle an essential life skill: Learning how – and when – to say No. Discover: -The concept of false urgency and why it’s a red flag; -How your values can help you find your Yes’s and No’s; -What you’re really saying when you say, “I should”; and -How to know if you’re being generous in an authentic way or just out of guilt. To learn more about listener data and our privacy practices visit: https://www.audacyinc.com/privacy-policy Learn more about your ad choices. Visit https://podcastchoices.com/adchoices

355. Gov. Tim Walz! Governor Tim Walz joins Glennon, Abby, and Amanda – with 19 days remaining until the election – to tell us: - WHO should be making decisions about women's bodies; - HOW the Harris-Walz administration plans to protect queer kids and feed all kids; and - WHAT they'll do to make our schools safe from gun violence. To learn more about listener data and our privacy practices visit: https://www.audacyinc.com/privacy-policy Learn more about your ad choices. Visit https://podcastchoices.com/adchoices

In this unplanned conversation, Amanda speaks up for everyone who’s been labeled a “Control Freak” – anyone who feels like they have to hold up the entire sky for their families or businesses – when what they really want is to feel supported and safe. Amanda shares vulnerably about: how she became an overfunctioner, the blessings and curses of being one, and the practical strategies she’s using to let go – and what her partner is doing to make her feel like she can finally try to relax. If this episode resonates, go back and listen to OVERWHELM: Is our exhaustion a sign that we’re CareTicking time bombs? To learn more about listener data and our privacy practices visit: https://www.audacyinc.com/privacy-policy Learn more about your ad choices. Visit https://podcastchoices.com/adchoices

354. How to Make Loving Corrections with adrienne maree brown adrienne marie brown returns to discuss how to make loving corrections with the people in your life. Discover: -The three essential human needs—and what happens when we don’t get them -How to break free from the need to be “good” and find something better -What defines a loving correction (and what doesn’t) -Why acting as a protector for others reveals deep truths about your own healing journey On the guest: adrienne maree brown grows healing ideas in public through writing, music, and podcasts, nurturing Emergent Strategy, Pleasure Activism, Radical Imagination and Transformative Justice. adrienne’s work is informed by 25 years of social and environmental justice facilitation primarily supporting Black liberation. adrienne is the author/editor of Emergent Strategy: Shaping Change, Changing Worlds; Pleasure Activism: The Politics of Feeling Good; Grievers; and Maroons. adrienne’s latest book Loving Corrections is available now. To learn more about listener data and our privacy practices visit: https://www.audacyinc.com/privacy-policy Learn more about your ad choices. Visit https://podcastchoices.com/adchoices

353. How We’ll Save Abortion: A Must-Listen with Jessica Valenti Amanda, Glennon and Abby sit down with award-winning writer and activist Jessica Valenti to discuss the state of abortion rights in the United States. Discover: -The staggering statistic revealing overwhelming public support for abortion in America -Why the anti-choice movement is desperate to keep abortion off the ballot -Why abortion is a litmus test for the future of democracy in America -The exodus of doctors from anti-choice states and the rise in maternal mortality rates. More on Jessica: Jessica Valenti is an award-winning author and activist. She’s the author of seven books, including the New York Times bestseller Sex Object: A Memoir. Her groundbreaking anthology, Yes Means Yes: Visions of Female Sexual Power and a World Without Rape, paved the way for legislation of the same name, setting what’s now considered the gold standard for sexual consent. Jessica has also been credited with sparking feminism’s online wave by founding the trailblazing blog Feministing. She’s been a columnist for The Guardian and The Nation, and her writing has been published everywhere from The New York Times and The Atlantic to Bitch magazine and The Toast. After the demise of Roe, Jessica founded Abortion, Every Day, an urgent synthesis of anything and everything happening with abortion rights in the United States. She lives in Brooklyn with her husband and daughter. More about Jessica’s Work: -https://www.penguinrandomhouse.com/books/772254/abortion-by-jessica-valenti/ -https://jessica.substack.com/ To learn more about listener data and our privacy practices visit: https://www.audacyinc.com/privacy-policy Learn more about your ad choices. Visit https://podcastchoices.com/adchoices

1. Jen describes the shock of losing her 26-year marriage overnight. 2. How, looking back, Jen sees that she knew something was wrong in her relationship well before she “knew” something was wrong – and the moment she reached out to Glennon to share it for the first time. 3. Why Jen’s friends told her she was a “human spotlight” and “cleanup crew” in her marriage – and the pain of realizing she was powerful in every role other than wife. 4. How Jen convinced herself that her marriage was enough when in reality she felt like a pot of water slowly building to a boil. 5. The common hell of being lonely inside of marriage – and why we won’t be fully honest with ourselves, our partners, or our friends about what we are most afraid of. About Jen: Jen Hatmaker is the New York Times bestselling author of For the Love and Fierce, Free, and Full of Fire, along with twelve other books. She hosts the award-winning For the Love podcast, is the delighted curator of the Jen Hatmaker Book Club, and leader of a tightly knit online community where she reaches millions of people each week. Jen is a co-founder of Legacy Collective, a giving organization that grants millions of dollars toward sustainable projects around the world. She is a mom to five kids and lives happily just outside Austin, Texas. To learn more about Jen, visit www.jenhatmaker.com. TW: @JenHatmaker IG: @jenhatmaker To learn more about listener data and our privacy practices visit: https://www.audacyinc.com/privacy-policy Learn more about your ad choices. Visit https://podcastchoices.com/adchoices

352. Which Day of the Week Are You? Abby, Glennon and Amanda discuss what day of the week they each are, why we do things we don’t want to do, and how to stop giving unsolicited advice. Discover: -Why we should celebrate divorce and endings more; -Unsolicited advice and what to do if you find yourself giving it; -Why you might be engaging in trauma reenactment; and -What’s happening when you feel the Sunday Scaries. To learn more about listener data and our privacy practices visit: https://www.audacyinc.com/privacy-policy Learn more about your ad choices. Visit https://podcastchoices.com/adchoices

351. How to Have *Healthy* Conflict with Amanda Ripley Conflict expert and investigative journalist, Amanda Ripley, is back to give us a conflict resolution 101 guide and delve into some real-life examples from Abby and Glennon’s relationship. Discover: -The best way to diffuse a high-conflict person from going further; -The binary thinking that makes fighting with a spouse feel so painful–plus, the antidote; -How to disagree while still holding someone else’s perspective; and -Why it’s important to know your shame responses in order to have better conflicts. For the first part of our conversation, check out Episode 330 Handling Conflict Right with Amanda Ripley. About Amanda: Amanda Ripley is an investigative journalist and author. Her most recent book is High Conflict, which chronicles how people get trapped by conflicts of all kinds—and how they get out. Her previous books include The Unthinkable, and The Smartest Kids in the World, a New York Times bestseller which was also turned into a documentary film. IG: @ripleywriter @thegoodconflict To learn more about listener data and our privacy practices visit: https://www.audacyinc.com/privacy-policy Learn more about your ad choices. Visit https://podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Today, we’re sharing our first conversation with one of our favorite teachers – Martha Beck. We talk about letting go of control, cultivating joy, strategies for making hard decisions when we’re scared, and learning to recognize and pursue what feels like freedom. Discover: -How do we tap back into living by our inner compass after living by consensus and following outer voices for so long? -What Martha said to Glennon and Abby when they told her they were in love but scared to move forward—and how that advice changed their lives. -How to make a plan to cultivate joy when it feels like you are army-crawling through life. About Martha: Dr. Martha Beck is a New York Times bestselling author, life coach, and speaker. She holds three Harvard degrees in social science, and Oprah Winfrey has called her “one of the smartest women I know.” Martha is a passionate and engaging teacher, known for her unique combination of science, humor, and spirituality. Her most recent book, The Way of Integrity: Finding the Path to Your True Self, was an instant New York Times Best Seller. IG: @themarthabeck To learn more about listener data and our privacy practices visit: https://www.audacyinc.com/privacy-policy Learn more about your ad choices. Visit https://podcastchoices.com/adchoices

350. Secrets to a Joyful Life with Ina Garten Ina Garten – the iconic Barefoot Contessa – shares her best life and business advice and her tips for how to host a successful dinner party. Plus, the details behind an unforgettable night with Abby, Ina, Taylor Swift, and beer pong; Discover: -Ina’s surefire way to silence the inner-critic; -Why satisfaction has everything to do with not settling; and -What the key to having a fun dinner party can teach us about life. About Ina: Ina Garten has hosted her Emmy and James Beard Award winning show, Barefoot Contessa, on the Food Network since 2002 and recently launched a new interview focused series, Be My Guest, with Food Network and discovery+. She has published thirteen cookbooks, including eleven #1 New York Times bestsellers. In 2015 Ina Garten was named one of Time Magazine’s 100 Most Influential People. She lives in East Hampton, New York with her husband, Jeffrey. Her new memoir Be Ready When the Luck Happens is available now. To learn more about listener data and our privacy practices visit: https://www.audacyinc.com/privacy-policy Learn more about your ad choices. Visit https://podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Part systems expert, part permission giver, Kendra Adachi, The Lazy Genius, is here to help you be a genius about the things that matter and lazy about the things that don't. To learn more about listener data and our privacy practices visit: https://www.audacyinc.com/privacy-policy Learn more about your ad choices. Visit https://podcastchoices.com/adchoices

349. How to Stop Pleasing and Start Living Amanda and Glennon answer your questions about friendship, mental health, people pleasing and the difference between boundaries and control. Discover: -Why if you’re a person who “goes with the flow” you might want to reconsider; -What to do when you feel the loss of a friend getting into a new relationship; -The truth about married men who refuse to socialize with women who are not their wife; and -The healing power of getting a mental health diagnosis later in life. To learn more about listener data and our privacy practices visit: https://www.audacyinc.com/privacy-policy Learn more about your ad choices. Visit https://podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Do you remember where you were? On September 27, 2018, as Dr. Christine Blasey Ford raised her right hand and testified in the hearings of Brett Kavanaugh—who would go on to be confirmed to a lifetime appointment on the highest court in the nation. This week marks six years since we were eyewitnesses to her historic, courageous patriotism. In honor of her bravery and resolve, today we reshare our powerful conversation with Dr. Christine Blasey Ford—about the heartbreak, and hope, of being an American woman. About Dr. Ford: Dr. Christine Blasey Ford is a professor of psychology at Palo Alto University and a clinical professor and consulting biostatistician at the Stanford University School of Medicine. On September 27, 2018, Dr. Ford testified before the Senate Judiciary Committee regarding her sexual assault in connection with the Committee’s consideration of Judge Brett Kavanaugh’s lifetime confirmation to the United States Supreme Court. Following her testimony, Ford and her family endured constant intimidation, harassment, and death threats forcing them to move out of their home, living in various secure locales with guards. In 2019, she was named one of the 100 most influential people in Time 100. Dr. Ford’s memoir, ONE WAY BACK, is available now. To learn more about listener data and our privacy practices visit: https://www.audacyinc.com/privacy-policy Learn more about your ad choices. Visit https://podcastchoices.com/adchoices

348. How to Quiet Your Inner Critic with Dr. Kristin Neff Dr. Kristin Neff shares the secret to self-compassion and how to lessen our inner critic’s voice in order to build self-worth. Discover: -The 20-second daily practice you need to increase your self-compassion; -How to use your compassion for others as a template for how to treat yourself; -How to give your inner-critic a software update; and -The “fierce” self-compassion and what it has to do with drawing boundaries. On The Guest: Dr. Kristin Neff is an Associate Professor of Educational Psychology at the University of Texas at Austin, and co-founder of the Center for Mindful Self-Compassion. She is a pioneer in the field of self-compassion research, conducting the first empirical studies on self-compassion more than twenty years ago. Kristin runs the Self-Compassion Community, an online learning platform where people can learn the skill of self-compassion with the help of others. She is author of the bestselling books Self-Compassion and Fierce Self-Compassion. She also co-wrote The Mindful Self-Compassion Workbook and has a new book called Mindful Self-Compassion for Burnout coming out in Fall 2024. Order her latest book here: https://self-compassion.org/ To learn more about listener data and our privacy practices visit: https://www.audacyinc.com/privacy-policy Learn more about your ad choices. Visit https://podcastchoices.com/adchoices