Cheating: When Love Lies

What if you suspected your partner had a secret lover. You could just feel in your gut. Something in your relationship changed, and you're convinced your partner is seeing, or even worse, having sex with someone else. Maybe you start snooping and sniffing around to see what this could-be cheater is up to. You might try to get into their phone and their computer, or do some low-key stalking. But what if this lover was right there in plain sight? Maybe your spouse's secret lover is your best friend, your neighbor, or your cousin. As horrible as that sounds unfortunately it's not sooooo uncommon. What if your spouse moved their lover right into your OWN house? You think it's impossible, then you need to hear my guest today! (My guest's name and voice has been changed to protect her identity)

Imagine if you could change your thinking and behavior in such a way to prevent your significant other from cheating on you. What if you could partially control whether or not your partner would be faithful by demonstrating some self respect. My guest today, Trevor Justice is a relationship coach and author of “Change Who You Attract & How You’re Treated.” Join me as I learn Trevor’s method on how to communicate in a troubled relationship and stave off cheating and affairs. Trevor shares success stories of his coaching at Attractloveandrespect.com. And for our listeners Trevor has set up a link at Attractlovegift.com to download the audio book and pdf. Be a guest on the show: Jillianhamiltonpodcast@gmail.com IG @cheatingwhenloveslies for highlights from all the shows. Please subscribe, like and share with anyone whose life has been upended by infidelity. Thank you!

Deception, lies, and gaslighting. Are they the most hurtful part of an affair, or is it the sex and knowing that your partner may be madly in love with someone else? It's different for every betrayed partner, but for my guest today whom we'll call Lisa - she was tortured her husband's lying. Lisa found out about her husband's affair, and after she nabbed him, he promised to work on their marriage. What he said sounded great, but Lisa kept observing suspicious behavior and red flags that made her question if what her husband was saying was in fact was he was doing. Join me and relationship coach and founder of Soulify Wellness, Beth Miller to talk about what happens when a cheating partner says they're committed to fixing the marriage, but acts with the same suspicious, inconsistent, red flag behavior they've always had. Lisa is here to share her story. Be a guest on the show: Jillianhamiltonpodcast@gmail.com IG @cheatingwhenloveslies for highlights from all the shows. Please subscribe, like and share with anyone whose life has been upended by infidelity. Reach Beth: @soulifywellness www.soulifywellness.com www.freemarriageguide.com

This week we are bringing back another favorite episode. Your husband has an affair which leads you to ask for a divorce. But it's what you discover after you file for divorce that shocks you and has you facing a moral dilemma. Your husband's been unfaithful and now you're divorcing him, so what's the use in trying to learn even more about his philandering ways - why torture yourself? My guest whom we'll call Gail uncovered disturbing facts about her husband after his affair destroyed their marriage. Now Gail is facing a dilemma: should she warn her husband's new girlfriend about his abusive and toxic behavior? Once you file for divorce are the effects of infidelity really over?Answer this episode's listener question on IG @cheatingwhenlovelies. Find relationship coach and Owner of Soulify Wellness Beth Miller at: http://www.facebook.com/soulifywellness/ http://www.facebook.com/soulifywellness/ https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCiHRjsv0neY3wWVlHLlMJJw Find me @CheatingWhenLoveLies and JillianHamilton.online

For years the buzzword was attracting, as in "you attract the partner you have in your life." Then the term "manifesting" took over, and suddenly everyone was trying to manifest everything from a dream job to a faithful partner. But what if deep down your subconscious was on overdrive pulling you toward that person who awakens your childhood abandonment issues, triggers your trauma bond, and then eventually cheats on you! My guest today is relationship pattern expert, Dr. Sajad Vahedi. He helps clients to stop acting out toxic behaviors in a promising relationship by using what he calls a Schema Framework. This Schema Framework ends the toxic patterns, freeing clients to build healthy, intimate, infidelity free relationships. Dr. Vahedi wants to celebrate 2024! Go to his Instagram @drsajadvahedi to find out about limited complimentary sessions he's making available to Cheating: When Love Lies listeners. Be a guest on the show: Jillianhamiltonpodcast@gmail.com IG @cheatingwhenloveslies for highlights from the shows. Please subscribe, like and share with anyone whose life has been effected by infidelity. Thank you!

Josh and Sharon are two formerly married people whose spouses cheated on them. Before they were married, Sharon's husband covered up the truth about his debts and failing finances. Then after they married, her husband started an affair with a woman he invited to Sharon's baby shower. Josh's wife had an affair after 17 years of marriage. He was devastated and disillusioned by this infidelity, and yet his marriage counselors told him he had no grounds to leave the mariage. Josh and Sharon both lived through the pain of an affair, but just like the blessings of the Holiday season, they unexpectedly found joy and hope after one of the most heartbreaking experiences of their lives. Their stories are a true holiday inspiration! Be a guest on the show: Jillianhamiltonpodcast@gmail.com IG @cheatingwhenloveslies for highlights from all the shows. Please subscribe, like and share with anyone whose life has been upended by infidelity. Thank you!

My guest today whom we’ll call Victoria, was emotionally and physically abused by her boyfriend. What began as incidents of grabbing and pushing escalated into violent beatings. But it wasn’t until Victoria eventually married this boyfriend ( oh yes she did) that she became aware of his cheating. Join me to find out what helped Victoria emerge from this nightmare to restore her life as a healthy, independent mom. Be a guest on the show: Jillianhamiltonpodcast@gmail.com IG @cheatingwhenloveslies for highlights from all the shows. Please subscribe, like and share with anyone whose life has been upended by infidelity. Thank you!

About two years ago, a guy friend said to me "I know my best friend and he would never cheat on his wife. He just wouldn't do it." Because of this podcast I'm sworn to secrecy, so I couldn't tell him that his best buddy was a flagrant philanderer who had cheated many times with many different women in both emotional and sexual affairs. As wives, husbands, partners, family members, and best friends, we can't imagine that someone we know would ever have an emotional or physical affair. This is why it is not uncommon that I hear from betrayed partners, "I was blindsided when I found out!" This is what happened to my guest Shea. Shea is her real name because with the support of Shea's husband, they decided together that appearing on Cheating: When Love Lies would be a part of Shea's healing. Beth Miller, relationship coach and owner of Soulifywellness is back to share her relationship expertise. Do you think that your partner would never ever cheat on you? Well, so did Shea. @cheatingwhenlovelies @soulifywellness https://www.facebook.com/groups/infidelityaffairsupportforwomen/?ref=share_group_link (https://www.facebook.com/groups/ infidelityaffairsupportforwomen/?ref=share_group_link)

Let’s call this episode the Halloween edition because I am spooked by guest’s husband’s very odd behavior—like getting fake restaurant receipts to prove he was dining somewhere when actually, he wasn’t. My guest caught her husband in countless lies by tracking his car. She even found a bag in her husband’s closet containing the most shocking, damning evidence of cheating one could possibly find, and yet she refuses to confront him to let him know that she’s on to his cheating ways. Why does she do this? And what was in that bag? You’ll never guess, so join me now for this spooky Halloween edition of CWLL to find out. Be a guest on the show: Jillianhamiltonpodcast@gmail.com IG @cheatingwhenloveslies for highlights from all the shows. Please subscribe, like and share with anyone whose life has been upended by infidelity. Thank you!

In this week's classic episode It's hard to think of a more demoralizing and debilitating situation than this: your husband has an affair, and his affair partner gets pregnant. But wait - it gets worse because you were pregnant around the same time his lover was pregnant. This is what happened to my guest Carly. Will Carly choose to save her marriage and embrace her husband's lover's child? What would you do? Find Beth at: www.freemarriageguide.com/ www.instagram.com/soulifywellness/ www.facebook.com/soulifywellness/ www.soulifywellness.com https://www.facebook.com/groups/infidelityaffairsupportforwomen Be a guest on the show. Jillianhamiltonpodcast@gmail.com IG @cheatingwhenloveslies for highlights from all the shows. Please subscribe, like and share with anyone whose life has been upended by infidelity.

I remember once a famous LA doctor said to me, Jillian everything seems so important until you get sick, then once you're sick the only thing that matters is getting better. This was the situation for my guest and her husband who was so ill, he was often hospitalized. His wife believed he was receiving the best possible care, but something happened at the hospital that threatened to end their decades long marriage and broke her trust in him. I have the upmost respect for so many in the medical profession that keep us healthy and alive. So when I heard this story of deceit and misconduct inside the hospital -I just couldn't believe it. Follow me on IG @cheatingwhenlovelies Want to be a guest? Jillianhamiltonpodcast@gmail.com Please subscribe and share!

Bringing back a favorite episode this week….The man you've fallen in love with is another woman's husband. As much as you try to resist the lure of his flirtation, eventually you succumb to his charm and start an affair. Your relationship with this married man feels deeply emotional, sexy and passionate. But when his wife finds out about you, the affair turns into a tumultuous saga involving you, your affair partner, his wife, his children, and your family. This is what happened to my guest whom we'll call Nicole. The affair starts to spiral out of control and you're going down with it. Then one day you and your affair partner's wife uncover a painful truth that bonds you as confidantes and allies. As a wife, could you ever befriend your husband's lover? Be a guest on the show: Jillianhamiltonpodcast@gmail.com IG @cheatingwhenloveslies for highlights from all the shows. Please subscribe, like and share with anyone whose life has been upended by infidelity. Thank you!

Do dating apps drive people to cheat? Do dating apps facilitate cheating? Or do dating apps have nothing to do with cheating at all? My guest Samantha, her boyfriend brazenly cheated on her with a multitude of women, and at times used different dating apps to find these other partners. Samantha has a PhD in public health and wrote her dissertation on dating app use — so I was thrilled to have this conversation with her from a personal and professional perspective. Join Samantha and me to ponder the question: how do dating apps influence cheating —if at all? Be a guest on the show: Jillianhamiltonpodcast@gmail.com IG @cheatingwhenloveslies for highlights from all the shows. Please subscribe, like and share with anyone whose life has been upended by infidelity. Thank you!

Is your spouse’s best friend too close for comfort? Does your partner’s BFF get more attention, time and better treatment than you? When you start to question just how close your spouse is to their “best friend” are you paranoid or intuitive? My guest Brent, who is married to his husband Michael ( not his real name) would say the latter. Brent’s world was turned upside down when he was deceived by a relationship that his husband Michael claimed was purely platonic. Be a guest on the show: Jillianhamiltonpodcast@gmail.com IG @cheatingwhenloveslies for highlights from all the shows. Please subscribe, like and share with anyone whose life has been upended by infidelity. Thank you!

About two years ago, a guy friend said to me "I know my best friend and he would never cheat on his wife. He just wouldn't do it." Because of this podcast I'm sworn to secrecy, so I couldn't tell him that his best buddy was a flagrant philanderer who had cheated many times with many different women in both emotional and sexual affairs. As wives, husbands, partners, family members, and best friends, we can't imagine that someone we know would ever have an emotional or physical affair. This is why it is not uncommon that I hear from betrayed partners, "I was blindsided when I found out!" This is what happened to my guest Shea. Shea is her real name because with the support of Shea's husband, they decided together that appearing on Cheating: When Love Lies would be a part of Shea's healing. Beth Miller, relationship coach and owner of Soulifywellness is back to share her relationship expertise. Do you think that your partner would never ever cheat on you? Well, so did Shea. @cheatingwhenlovelies @soulifywellness https://www.facebook.com/groups/infidelityaffairsupportforwomen/?ref=share_group_link (https://www.facebook.com/groups/ infidelityaffairsupportforwomen/?ref=share_group_link)

You are single and you’re having an affair with someone who is married or is a committed partner. You desperately want to know if your lover is going to leave their spouse to be with you. Alternatively, you’ve been betrayed. Your spouse has broken your vows, or your committed partner has been unfaithful. You too desperately want answers to the question “will my spouse choose me or their secret lover ? My guest today, Martess A Dowling is the author of Is He Ever Going To Leave His Wife ? The Answers to the Questions You Desperately Want To Know. The book helps answer those questions. It is an Amazon #1 Best Setter, winner of the Silver Star- Literary Titan Book Award, and the Five Star - Reader's Favourite Book Award. Dowling’s insight as to why cheaters stay or go is based on her research, and her use of an uncommon and controversial tool. Join me to learn more about the people Martess has helped — and just how she does it! Be a guest on the show: Jillianhamiltonpodcast@gmail.com IG @cheatingwhenloveslies for highlights from all the shows. Please subscribe, like and share with anyone whose life has been upended by infidelity. Thank you.

For the Labor Day holiday we are bringing back one of our most compelling episodes. It's hard to think of a more demoralizing and debilitating situation than this: your husband has an affair, and his affair partner gets pregnant. But wait - it gets worse because you were pregnant around the same time his lover was pregnant. This is what happened to my guest Carly. Will Carly choose to save her marriage and embrace her husband's lover's child? What would you do? Find Beth at: www.freemarriageguide.com/ www.instagram.com/soulifywellness/ www.facebook.com/soulifywellness/ www.soulifywellness.com https://www.facebook.com/groups/infidelityaffairsupportforwomen

Tony and Nicole were secret lovers who became a couple after they cheated on and eventually left their spouses. They have that super passionate kind of love that takes you over, and you cannot deny. But what does an affair cost your children and the spouse you've left behind? They say, "he'll never leave his wife" or "she'll never leave her husband" but Tony did and Nicole did - right before Thanksgiving. Be a guest on the show: Jillianhamiltonpodcast@gmail.com IG @cheatingwhenloveslies for highlights from all the shows. Please subscribe like and share with anyone you know who's been affected by infidelity. Thank you!

You meet the man of your dreams and you fall madly in love. He's from another country, and his homeland is far from yours. One day he gets his dream job abroad and you agree to follow him to a foreign country, then back to his homeland to start a family. Years later the relationship starts to fall apart and he winds up having an affair. This is what happened to my guest whom we'll call Susan. When Susan decides she wants to leave her cheating husband, she soon finds out that the worst part about following him wasn't leaving her homeland, her parents or giving up her own career, but something far, far worse than she ever could have imagined. Joining Susan and me is Beth Miller, owner of Soulify Wellness. Beth's 12 week program teaches women how to transform themselves in order to transform their lives and relationships. Using Beth's Soulify Wellness method, Lee and many women explore memories and unprocessed emotions which are often the real reasons for the unhealthy patterns and communication issues in a marriage or partnership. Find Beth at: www.freemarriageguide.com/ www.instagram.com/soulifywellness/ www.facebook.com/soulifywellness/ www.soulifywellness.com https://www.facebook.com/groups/infidelityaffairsupportforwomen Share your own story at Jillianhamilton.online. Follow, subscribe and share @cheatingwhenlovelies Tik tok Jillianhamilton23

Your husband‘s affair partner has a brand new car, and you’re driving a 10 -year-old model. Your husband‘s affair partner has a brand new air conditioning system, and you’re sweltering in the heat because your A/C is broken. Your husband seems to have endless resources for his affair partner, and little for you. This is what happened to my guest whom we call Vicky, when she discovered her husband’s untruths, and a multi-year affair partner whom he lavished. What would you do if you discovered your spouse’s affair partner was receiving as much or more emotional and financial support than you? What happens when you discover an affair partner who seems more like your spouse’s main course than their side piece? Be a guest on the show: Jillianhamiltonpodcast@gmail.com IG @cheatingwhenlovelies for highlights from the show. Tik Tok: Jillianhamilton23 Please subscribe, like and share with anyone whose life has been upended by infidelity.