UnF*ck Your Brain: Feminist Self-Help for Everyone
Self Development
UnF*ck Your Brain: Feminist Self-Help for Everyone breaks down the centuries of sexist socialization that causes us to struggle with self-doubt, burnout, and anxiety. Hosted by Master Feminist Coach Kara Loewentheil, J.D., founder of The School of New Feminist Thought and author of Take Back Your Brain (Penguin 2024), each episode teaches you how to turn down the noise of societal expectations, turn up the volume on what YOU really want in life, and change your thinking to make sure you go get it. This podcast is an essential resource for anyone eager to embrace a life free from limiting beliefs and societal constraints. If you ever find yourself asking questions like… *Why am I so anxious about stuff that isn’t a big deal? *How can I stop overthinking everything? *Am I selfish for wanting my life to look different? *Will I ever feel comfortable in my body? *Am I a bad parent? *How can I ask for more money at work? *Can I stop people-pleasing? *How can my partner and I communicate better? … then you won’t want to miss an episode. Visit schoolofnewfeministthought.com to learn more about The School of New Feminist Thought and more.
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UnF*ck Your Brain: Feminist Self-Help for Everyone breaks down the centuries of sexist socialization that causes us to struggle with self-doubt, burnout, and anxiety. Hosted by Master Feminist Coach Kara Loewentheil, J.D., founder of The School of New Feminist Thought and author of Take Back Your Brain (Penguin 2024), each episode teaches you how to turn down the noise of societal expectations, turn up the volume on what YOU really want in life, and change your thinking to make sure you go get it. This podcast is an essential resource for anyone eager to embrace a life free from limiting beliefs and societal constraints. If you ever find yourself asking questions like… *Why am I so anxious about stuff that isn’t a big deal? *How can I stop overthinking everything? *Am I selfish for wanting my life to look different? *Will I ever feel comfortable in my body? *Am I a bad parent? *How can I ask for more money at work? *Can I stop people-pleasing? *How can my partner and I communicate better? … then you won’t want to miss an episode. Visit schoolofnewfeministthought.com to learn more about The School of New Feminist Thought and more.
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@RedesignYrMind
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English
Episodes
378. The Biggest Time Management Problem & How to Solve It
1/23/2025
Are you unknowingly sabotaging your time management? As women, we’re trained to take on responsibility for everything—other people’s feelings, outcomes we can’t control, and tasks that were never ours to begin with. The result? Exhaustion, overwhelm, and decisions that don’t serve us.
In this episode, I’m sharing how over-responsibility snuck into my own plans for 2025 and what I did to get back on track. I’ll walk you through the self-coaching process I used to uncover and shift the sneaky thought patterns holding me back—like feeling responsible for other people’s feelings or thinking I don’t deserve to fully use my privileges. If you’re ready to ditch the overwork cycle and start reclaiming your time, this episode is for you!
Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://schoolofnewfeministthought.com/378
Duration:00:24:43
377. Over-Responsibility: The Spin (Greatest Hits)
1/16/2025
Do you feel like you’re carrying the weight of the world on your shoulders? Like you’re responsible for everyone and everything around you? Society has trained women to believe our worth depends on managing everyone else’s thoughts, feelings, and happiness. But this over-responsibility? It’s a dream stealer, an energy drainer, and a massive life suck.
In this Greatest Hits episode, I’m diving into how over-responsibility shows up in our lives and why it keeps us stuck. From obsessing over appearances to taking on outcomes we can’t control, this constant brain spin has us chasing impossible standards instead of living the lives we want. Tune in to uncover how over-responsibility is holding you back—and learn what it takes to finally let it go and reclaim your energy for your dreams.
Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://schoolofnewfeministthought.com/377
Duration:00:19:06
FREE TRAINING: The Productivity Paradox
1/10/2025
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Duration:00:04:11
376. Exactly How to Negotiate As A Woman, with Negotiation Expert Kathryn Valentine
1/9/2025
Ever felt anxious about negotiating a raise, bonus, or promotion? Worried about being labeled “difficult” or facing backlash for advocating for yourself? You’re not alone—research shows that women face unique challenges in workplace negotiations, thanks to deeply ingrained gender dynamics.
This week, I’m joined by Kathryn Valentine, a negotiation expert who turned her own experience of facing backlash into a career teaching women how to advocate effectively. Tune in to hear Kathryn break down the roots of the gender negotiation gap and share practical strategies to help you negotiate with confidence—and get what you deserve—without fearing the fallout.
Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://schoolofnewfeministthought.com/376
Duration:00:31:50
375. How to Improve Instead of Give Up (+ Expiring Offer Jan 3!)
1/1/2025
The two biggest obstacles to creating lasting change? Getting started and not quitting when things go off the rails. We all know we should just try again if we fail, but let’s be honest—that’s a lot easier said than done when you don’t understand what’s really going on in your brain.
Tune in this week to learn what happens in your brain when you fail and why failure is a non-negotiable part of the growth process. I’ll show you how to take the sting out of shame, guilt, and anxiety so you can use every misstep as a stepping stone to the results you want.
Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://schoolofnewfeministthought.com/375
Duration:00:14:40
374. Budgeting, Diet Culture & Spending Well - A Conversation with the Frugal Friends Podcast
12/26/2024
Do you ever try to shop your way out of a bad feeling, only to regret it later? What’s really driving those impulse purchases, and how is the way society talks about women’s spending warping your relationship with money? (Hint: it’s eerily similar to how diet culture messes with your relationship with food.)
This week, I’m joined by Jen Smith and Jill Sirianni, experts in helping people feel good about their finances no matter their income. They’re sharing insights from their upcoming book, Buy What You Love Without Going Broke, which is all about spending in a way that actually aligns with your values—and ditching the guilt and shame around money decisions. You'll learn how to spend with confidence and make decisions that feel as good later as they do in the moment.
Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://schoolofnewfeministthought.com/374
Duration:00:34:47
373. Most Habit Change Advice is Wrong - Inconsistency Is the Key to Success
12/19/2024
Do you feel like new habits just don’t stick? Like no matter how hard you try, you can’t seem to get it “right” from the start? Here’s the thing: you’ve probably been taught that perfect consistency is the only way to make habits work—but that’s total BS. What if the real key is actually embracing inconsistency?
In this episode, I’m flipping the script on conventional habit advice. I’ll show you why perfectionism is sabotaging your progress and how letting go of the need to get it “perfect” can actually help you build habits that stick. Tune in to learn practical strategies for embracing imperfection, ditching all-or-nothing thinking, and making real, sustainable progress—no matter how messy it looks along the way.
Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://schoolofnewfeministthought.com/373
Duration:00:22:26
372. Patriarchy-Proof Your Resolutions (Greatest Hits)
12/12/2024
Tired of setting New Year’s resolutions that fizzle out by February? The problem isn’t you—it’s the patriarchy. In this episode, I teach you how to “patriarchy-proof” your resolutions so they reflect your values, not the ones you’ve been trained to prioritize.
We’ll dig into how social conditioning shapes your goals without you even realizing it—and why breaking free from those patterns is the key to creating lasting change. If you’re stuck repeating the same resolutions year after year, this is the shift you need.
Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://schoolofnewfeministthought.com/372
Duration:00:22:11
New Mini-Course: How to Make and KEEP Your Resolutions
12/11/2024
Join us in The Feminist Self-Help Society for access to this brand new mini-course complete with new audio lessons and a workbook all about making and keeping your resolutions.
And, make sure you sign up before Dec 31 because the price will be increasing! Click here to learn more and to join us: https://schoolofnewfeministthought.com/resolutions/
Duration:00:09:38
371. Stop Fetishizing Systemic Change or Your Brain in Denmark
12/5/2024
Have you ever caught yourself daydreaming about how much better your life would be if you lived in a country with more progressive policies? Universal healthcare, affordable childcare, endless vacation days—it sounds like paradise, right? I know I’ve been there. But is the grass really greener, or is this just another sneaky way our brains trick us into thinking the solution is somewhere “out there”?
In this episode, I’ll show you why fantasizing about a “better” life elsewhere might actually be holding you back—and how you can start rewiring your brain to create change wherever you are, no passport required.
Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://schoolofnewfeministthought.com/371
Duration:00:17:13
370. How to Handle Disagreement Better
11/28/2024
Have you ever found yourself stuck in a disagreement that feels like it’s going nowhere, just looping around the same points? Maybe it’s because deep down, you believe the only way to "resolve" it is if the other person totally agrees with you—or you have to surrender and agree with them. Sound familiar?
Tune in as I break down a game-changing reframe for navigating conflict. You’ll get practical tools for spotting your own thought patterns, speaking your truth without needing validation, and finding peace—yes, even if the other person still doesn’t see it your way. Because here’s the truth: resolution doesn’t mean agreement, and it’s time we all start living like it.
Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://schoolofnewfeministthought.com/370
Duration:00:18:19
SAVE YOUR SEAT: Feminist Future Self Workshop
11/22/2024
Join me for this LIVE all-day workshop, Feminist Future Self, here: https://unfuckyourbrain.com/future
Duration:00:03:10
369. Marriage & Money: A Conversation with Megan Gorman
11/21/2024
Who you choose to tie the knot with is one of the biggest financial decisions you'll ever make. Even though marriage has evolved a lot over time, it is still an economic institution that women regularly lose their financial independence to. So, whether you're single or partnered, how can you prevent this from happening?
To answer this question, I'm joined by tax attorney, wealth expert, and author of her new book, "All the Presidents' Money", Megan Gorman. Megan shares how to have those important money conversations with your partner early on and her advice for creating a monthly money ritual with your significant other to stay on the same page. She also explains why women often give away our financial power in relationships - and how we can take it back.
Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://schoolofnewfeministthought.com/369
Duration:00:23:35
Bonus: Election Mindset Shifts You Can Make Right Now
11/15/2024
Are you catastrophizing about current events and feeling paralyzed by fear and uncertainty? It’s easy to get caught up in the echo chamber of social media and the news, leaving you feeling disempowered and overwhelmed. But what if you could learn to hold belief in the world you want to see, even when the evidence isn’t there yet?
In this bonus episode, I explore some of the common thought errors that arise during challenging times. From the idea that we have to be freaking out to prove we care, to the belief that self-coaching isn’t relevant to larger societal issues, these thought patterns can keep you stuck and unable to take meaningful action. I offer shifts that I have seen to be helpful for both myself and my students in cultivating the mental fortitude we need to keep showing up for the world we believe in.
Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://schoolofnewfeministthought.com/election-mindset-shifts/
Duration:00:28:22
BRAIN FRIDAY SALE: Get the 'How to Coach Yourself: The Feminist Mindset Fix' Mini-Course!
11/14/2024
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Duration:00:02:44
368. How to Stop Avoiding Your Problems
11/14/2024
Have you ever avoided dealing with a problem, hoping it would just go away on its own? I know I have -- and I have a WILD story to share with you about what happens when we do this.
Join me this week to understand why problem avoidance is so tempting but so counterproductive. You’ll learn how the consequences of problem avoidance can play out in your life, and most importantly, practical strategies for facing your problems with courage and resilience.
Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://schoolofnewfeministthought.com/368
Duration:00:24:17
Bonus: How to Calm Your Brain Right Now
11/8/2024
Given the events in the United States this week, many of us have brains that are running wild. You might be feeling scared, angry, disappointed, and a whole slew of other emotions. You're not alone-- and this bonus episode is here to help.
Join me to hear why catastrophizing isn’t useful or accurate (even if it seems like everyone else is doing it), my own experience of anxiety and fear the last time we had the same results in 2016, and my top 5 tips for what you can do right now to keep yourself grounded and your head clear.
Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://schoolofnewfeministthought.com/bonus-calm-brain/
Duration:00:32:34
367. Leadership & Self Compassion: An Interview with Jerry Colonna
11/7/2024
Do you ever feel like the more successful you become ... the worse you feel? Jerry Colonna, a venture-capital-guy-turned-Buddhist-executive-coach, found himself in that exact position - until he decided to do the hard work of confronting himself.
In this episode, we discuss how practicing radical self-inquiry with compassion is essential for anyone who wants to lead - whether they're leading a company, a family, or just their own life. You'll learn why resolving conflicts mindfully is a critical skill -- as is embracing the messiness of being human.
Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://schoolofnewfeministthought.com/367
Duration:00:40:29
366. The Costs and Benefits of Standing Out: A Conversation with Deesha Dyer
10/31/2024
How often do you feel like you’re concealing the “real” you? Do you struggle with being your authentic self, especially in challenging environments? “Authenticity” has become a very popular buzzword -- but what does it really mean?
This week, I’m joined by Deesha Dyer, former White House Social Secretary and author of the book, "Undiplomatic: How My Attitude Created the Best Kind of Trouble". Deesha shares her incredible journey from going to community college at 29-years-old to working up the ranks in the Obama White House, and the challenges she faced along the way in staying true to herself. We discuss how to navigate being your authentic self in difficult environments - especially if you hold one or more marginalized identities - and the true costs and benefits of standing out.
Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://schoolofnewfeministthought.com/366
Duration:00:24:45
Free Guide for Therapists: Closing the “Brain Gap” In Women’s Therapy
10/24/2024
Grab this totally free guide, Closing the “Brain Gap” In Women’s Therapy: Three Ways to Deepen Rapport, Get Better Results, and Blow Your Clients’ Minds, here: https://feministtherapy.com/
Duration:00:04:13